Ideas for pick me ups for elderly aged man

[#1donaldfan]

The thing is, it's not what we can do for someone, especially a loved one, to make them "happy" .... Happy comes from within. Right now he's lost and feels alone and that is a very normal feeling. He is just doing and feeling normal things right now as he's doing the very best he can do to get through this. I am certain he appreciates what you and others do, but right now he is finding who he is with what remains of his "normal". I know what it's like to even lose sight of church and our church family, but there again, he is just doing very normal things right now. Everyone is different and everyone goes through this process in different ways and I'm sure he will begin to emerge from this, albeit changed a little. I promise to pray for him and the family. For me, I like getting pictures. Old ones, forgotten ones. Send him old pictures of family and friends, trips you've been on together. Family is absolutely everything and to file through old pictures means everything.....it helps us remember who we were and are ....

[Scar]

He is introvert, and refuses to go anywhere right now - he is a Mason and will not even go to lodge meetings

... Also maybe getting one of his fellow Masons to check on him or a member from the church. They sometimes have more influence then a family member.

Contact the Lodge (preferably the Secretary) and let them know the situation. They will want to help. Let me know if you need any help getting this done.