My advice...hand the wedding planning back over to her.

My H and got married last October. We planned it and paid for it and still butted heads with our parents at times over it. My best friend got married a month before us. Her mom planned her wedding, her father paid for it. She dictated whether she liked the decisions or not. By the end of it they couldn't stand each other.

My friend thought she wanted it out of her hand. Mom thought she understood what her daughter wanted. Friend thought Mom was excited to do the planning. Mom thought she was really doing her daughter a favor. The whole thing was a fiasco and when the big day came they were pretty much at each other's throats.

Maybe that was just them....being out of the wedding planning bubble for a few months now I can say wedding planning does some crazy things to the brides and the moms. I don't envy you. lol

What eventually helped me was stepping back and saying at the end of the day this is just a party. At the end of the day if I'm married that's what really matters to me. Having a top tier bar when t puts us in debt six months after won't make us, as a couple, happy. No one will really notice but me and Mom that the escort cards were color coordinated to the place settings.

Take a deep breath, set a budget, spend a day with your daughter just talking about what she envisions and then make a list of priorities. If the dress, the food and the photos top the list then focus on those and don't worry if the invitations aren't silk screen and calligraphy written.

Good luck!