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How would you do it?
I need some advice from some Fellow "Addicts".
DH and I have been to WDW about a few times and are now having friends and family wishing to join us when we go down ~ as personal tour booklets. Let me start by saying we are both young at heart and enjoy WDW as others seem to enjoy those all inclusive Mexico/Hawaii vacations. I enjoy every moment I get there as a blessing and a treat and enjoy everything from Peter Pan to Everest.
Now the problem ~
Some of these people are, to use a Harry Potter term, Muggles ( Non magical folk) and insist on crabbing about the lines( which, unless you can just walk on, are too long), the crowds(apparently we should be the only people there), the food(which is weird & waaay too expensive) and the size of the Parks(because they had to use those sticks under their bellies for more than a pedicure). We can put up with it for a day, maybe two then I start to get annoyed and if, gawd forbid, you suggest they do their own thing for a day ~ they decline because they don't want to go alone and follow us anyway.
I need some advice and help on how to cope with this. I understand not everyone is as thrilled to be there as I am but how do I get through the vacation without wanting to throttle them? What do you do to stay sane or dial them in??
And sorry, saying no to them going with us is not an option ~ I just need help being happy in my Happy Place.
Shannon
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2000~04~06~07~08~09~10~11~12~2015 WDW
1989~2013-2014 Disneyland
~It's not the number of breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away~
~You should never take more than you give~ The Circle of Life
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On most of our trips, we have shared the World with family and friends....And have some special memories of those trips.....Your comments brought back some of the not so special memories as well....Seems memories can be selective, and the more bothersome events fade more quickly.
We have had special times as a result of trying to find something special to do with our self-invited guests. Pointing out the details of the design is a way of highlighting them for our own enjoyment.
I am a planning nut....and planning for us and our guests just gives me more options....I also find that some people just like to be surprised.....Takes a little more time, but I try to plan the surprises as well. Usually keep a few in my back pocket, just in case....preserves my reputation as being spontaneous.....
We've done it with on-site and off-site guests.....By the 3rd day, off site guests start to show up later, and depart earlier.....frees up more of your time....
Harder to shake onsite companions....I let them know my plans, and let them choose whether or not to join me....I am a morning person, and love to be at the parks for opening....Find that for most companions, by the third day, they suggest sleeping in....I let them do so, and head for the parks....Rendezvous for lunch, or even a late breakfast.....On MK morning EMH days, I suggest the latest possible seating at Crystal Palace, Chef Mickey's, or 1900 Park Faire....
We find that the most common complaints are about lines, heat, food, and prices.....We really try to make them fully aware of the costs, particularly for food.....Get them menus as early as possible...If they ask you to do ADR's, make sure they know exactly what it will cost them.....Give them the menus for the CS's as well....Don't let the prices be a surprise....
Can't stress enough...do not let them ruin your trip....If the lines are too much of a problem for them, take them on a few of the attractions with shorter lines.....and propose meeting them later, while you do the attractions you intended to share....Be sure to tell them what they missed...
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I understand your pain. My first trip to the world in 1989 was a mistake when my brother and his family went.
Although it was decided before the trip that we could go our own ways most of time it did not happen.
It was the worst trip of my life. We should have stuck to our guns and did what we wanted but still spent time with them. Instead we ended up doing what they ( my sister inlaw wanted to do ).
It was so bad that my family went back the following year and had the time of our life. Needless to say we have never done that again.
I would be honest with them and try not to hurt their feelings but tell them what you are planning and that you are going to have some special time with each other.
In short its your vacation too and you are not their personal tour guide.
I hope happy planning.
Itchy for another trip
Caribbean Beach 1989, 90, 92
All St Movies 1999, 04, 05, 11
All St Sports 2006
Pop 2007, 08 x2, 09 x2, 10, 12 x2,13,14,15,16,17,18,2021,23
POR 2010 x2, 11
Coronado Springs 2019
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NEVER AGAIN !!!! The "nice" couple that came with us in Dec. 2006 turned out to be caustic, whining, drunks. I casually said, one day, "sure wish you could come with us", and it was a done deal.
My DH told me, IF YOU EVER........! Well, I never will again.
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE!!
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1999, 2000,2001, Shades of Green
2002 Contemporary - 2003 Contemporary - 2004, 2005,2006, Shades of Green
Dec. 2007 First trip to Disneyland
Dec. 2008 Shades of Green & JQ "meet"
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I would set aside time for just the two of you in advance. It's your vacation as well and I'm assuming you are paying your own way (if they are paying for you, you'll have to tough it out.) Just say something like, "We have a few things planned for ourselves on Wednesday but we'll catch up with you at breakfast on Thursday." That way you have something to look forward to and they have time to make their own plans for that day.
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My extended family visited WDW in Dec 2004. It could have been a real nightmare, but before we left, we let them know that we had stuff that we knew we were going to do alone, but that other things everyone was welcome to enjoy with us. We also made sure to schedule a few meals together, so we still got to see everyone, and share what we had been doing, but we didn't spend every single second together.
As in chocolate bars and glasses of wine, everything in moderation! Too much togetherness isn't good in situations like this.
Good luck!!
Meg
40 trips (plus two to Disneyland, and one to Disneyland Paris) and counting!
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Well, the evil part of me...
....says tell them you can't go and go anyway. If they think you're not going, they might stay home!
Heck, WDW is a big place. Even if they go, chances are, you'll never see them!
(I'm being sarcastic...sort of!!)
Seriously, I've had this happen on a small scale. We planned a trip a few years ago with another family (Kim, Chris, and their kids) who are fellow Disney fanatics. Had the touring schedule down, the dining ressies made, etc. etc. Then, two days before we were to leave, Kim's sister and her husband decided THEY wanted to go, too. Kim didn't feel she could say no to them, so she helped them book a hurry-up trip. She even managed to get them added to our dining ressies. Their first day "hanging" with us was miserable-- they did nothing but complain, complain, complain. "Too hot." "This line is too long." "My makeup is running." "My hair is frizzing." "I don't want to get splashed."
After the first day, we politely made our excuses and toured by ourselves. Didn't get to hang with our friends at all. We ate our planned meals with them, but that was it. We had fun, but not nearly as much fun as we'd hoped!
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1996...Dixie Landings
1997...off site
2000...Dixie Landings
2002...Wilderness Lodge
2004...POR
2004...POFQ
2005...15th anniversary!
2007...October trip with the DD's!
2008.. October trip! Woooohoooo!!
2010...April trip! DD's are marching in the MK!
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OK
#1) be truthful. in some sort of polite way, let them know about your concerns. But do not dump it on them, especially at the last moment.
#2) Talk to them about their expectations. Talk to them about yours. Be honest & upfront.
If they are your friends they will get it.
#3) i agree with the other posts about 'private time'.
#4) to put the way some other relationship experts have said "have a backbone". I am not implying you do not, but realize that you might go out of your way and ruin an expensive trip by not talking to your friends.
Simply put- find a way to talk- you might just find that they understand.
Good luck & let us know how it goes
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Can you plan overlapping trips? So you have some days with them, some days all to yourself?? (same goes for them)...that may help!
Lisa
Multiple visits over Multiple years
30 plus stays at Disney's Polynesian resort
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We went with a group of 11! Anytime you have a big group not everyone is happy all the time!
I LOVE Disney and was totally happy doing all or sitting doing nothing! If you like to plan, make all the meal ressies after talking with your group. Then if someone is cranky say something like well, we will meet you for lunch or dinner and until then you can do what you want. Half day breaks were the saving grace of our trip! Just enough away time to make together time work out without making you feel guilty for not spending every waking moment with them! Good luck!!!!
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disney isd the happiest place on earth have the time of your life..
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'04 offsite
'06 Saratoga Springs resort
'07 Saratoga Springs resort
upcoming trip feb '09
There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of everyday
JONAS BROTHERS<33
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We have a boat and the best times for us at the lake were with others who also have boats.
They have their own transportation, their own food, their own time schedule. We camp in a big group and break up into smaller ones during the day. Around dinner time we all come back together again to cook and enjoy sitting around the campfire after dark. I think this would be the best way to plan a Disney vacation with other families. Have your own room and some dinners on your own. Spend some time with the other friends as well.
Its lot of money to spend for a vacation you should enjoy it! :mickey
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I guess I would tell them that you have planned certain things that you would like to do by yourself and they should do the same. I would then say you can meet up at such and such a place for dinner, lunch, etc etc.
I had to laugh because when we went to Disneyland in October with our two daughters...dear hubs and I told them...there are going to be times that you all should run off and do your thing and we'll do ours. You would think that would no be a problem but for some reason our youngest who is 17 had some very clingly moments. It about drove us nuts. Don't get us wrong we love our children dearly but you know everybody gets to an age and to a point that you should be able to do things together, even if it is family, but then go off and do things alone.
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Dec. 2003---Poly Concierge
Dec. 2005---Poly Concierge
Nov. 2007---Poly Concierge
Oct. 2008--DisneyLand
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We have had this happen before and the last few times have anticipated it by starting a google group for the trip and adding everyone who planned on going to it. Once this was done we did regular posts on it including FAQ's and concerns, etc. We also planned an entire itinerary of when and who we would be meeting up with. We made it very clear that this schedule would be stuck to as we had many friends and family that we wanted tot see. It made it much smoother for us to "get away" form the ones we knew would drive us crazy, but still spend quality time with.
For the people that hated lines, we went to Animal Kingdom and Hollywood Studios. SInce we knew they were not Thrill ride people but liked shows and walking around, we knew lines would not be an issue really (TSM aside).
With our schedule we also planned to meet up with people we love hanging out with and whop are fun WDW freaks too after meeting with the harder people. This picks up the mood and helps you to get back into the magic.
D
It's gonna be the future soon
I won't always be this way
When the things that make me weak and strange get engineered away
-Emil Bleehall - Adventurer of the Year!
Next Stop... MNSSHP Oct. 2011! Oh boy here we go!
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In 2001, my parents decided to take our entire family to Disney for Christmas. This my family of 6, my sister's family of 4, and my brother's family of 2. What happened was that certain dinner reservations and certain rides were command performances and all 14 of us were to be together. Otherwise we were to do our own thing for the week we were down there. It worked out nicely. All of the grandchildren go to do something with their grandparents.
Katherine
6/2015 POP Celebrating Youngest Son's HS graduation and my birthday.
6/2012 POFQ Celebrating Daughter's HS graduation and my birthday
01/2009 ASMu 20th anniversary
12/2004 ASMu
12/2001 POR
12/1982 OffSite, 04/1987 OffSite
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Just 2 suggestions:
Try to get the dining plan. That way, they've already paid for the bulk of their food and won't have to shell out lots of $$$ at each meal.
If they complain about the crowds or lines, just say, "Disney World can't make it just on our business! If it weren't for other paying customers, we couldn't enjoy the wonderful place!"
Wrong will be right, when Aslan comes in sight,
At the sound of his roar, sorrows will be no more,
When he bares his teeth, winter meets its death,
And when he shakes his mane, we shall have spring again.
Micki
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Thanks ~
Thank you all for giving me some great ideas and also for letting me know that this happens to others as well. This should give me a few alternatives for dealing with the situations that may arise.
Either way, you're right ~ I'm still in Florida
Shannon
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2000~04~06~07~08~09~10~11~12~2015 WDW
1989~2013-2014 Disneyland
~It's not the number of breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away~
~You should never take more than you give~ The Circle of Life
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So...leaving the "muggles" @ home is not an option...pity! Then the only thing you can do is when they start complaining, just close your eyes, click your heels together 3 times, and say "there's no place like WDW!"
Seriously though, we've been lucky enough over the years to have been able to go with other family members who love WDW almost as much as we do! But we have run into the occasional "muggle" ourselves. However, usually after the first day, they can't keep up w/our schedule and kinda go on their own. I would suggest kind but brutal honesty up front about what they can expect as "rookies" and what your shcedule WILL be like. Sure, you can all hook up for meals and spend one or two days touring together, but spending every waking moment together, well...for sanity's sake, how about no! After all. it's your vaca too, and you should enjoy yourself, and they, as friends, should understand!
1974 - Off Property
1975 - Poly
1980 - Golf Resort (Honeymoon)
1881 - Golf Resort
1982 - Poly
1983 - Contemporary
1989 - CBR (10th anniversay)
1998 - CBR (DD 1st trip )
2001 - CBR
2003 - WL
2004 - WL (25th anniversary)
2005 - WL
2006 - WL
2010 - WL
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Do you plan everything? If so, tell whoever goes with you to plan their own meals for at least a couple of nights. Or have them take control of their entire vacation. Say something like, you just don't have time to plan for everyone.
Once you are there, when you can't get rid of them, go on Small World and Dumbo a few times and proclaim your undying love for Fantasyland and plan to stay there all day. (watch out though, if I were the tag alongs, I would love this) Surely they would find somewhere else they would rather be and ditch you!
'09~Pop
'08~Pop,CR
'07~Pop,POR
'06~WL,Pop
'05~CSR, Pop, CBR
'04~ASSp, ASMu, Pop
'03~ASMo,POR,Poly
'02~WL
'01~ASMo
'00~Off Site :0(
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