I am so glad you posted this! I know exactly how you feel, I look at our precious vacation photos and I want to edit myself out of them desperately before my daughter puts them on facebook. I don't have miraculous solutions or special products to offer you, only my support and understanding. I think a lot more of us feel this way than you think. I do put my hair in a pony tail and try to smooth down the frizzies with hair spray before leaving the room.