Waving the White Flag

[Cinderelley]

Ok. I just need to vent a little. I am doing it here, because weddings are supposed to be happy occasions.

I just got the plans together for my daughter's wedding. Woke up today, and there was a text from my oldest son. He and his gf decided to get married while we are in Disney World also. /faint

I love planning trips, but this is getting to be too much. Anyone want to do some planning for me?????

On second thought, anyone want to referee between my daughter and son for me?

[VWL Mom]

You poor thing, are you sure your son isn't playing a cruel April fools joke on you? As far as referee, tell your daughter it's still all about her and tell your son he's on his own. I'm sorry but IMO it's a pretty ignorant move on his part (gf must be a real prize too...not) and I would do nothing to support their plan.

[texas211]

Well, how many more does the party increase to if getting married in WDW?
How many months away?

And most importantly, did she order her dress from Angelos?

[Cinderelley]

You poor thing, are you sure your son isn't playing a cruel April fools joke on you? As far as referee, tell your daughter it's still all about her and tell your son he's on his own. I'm sorry but IMO it's a pretty ignorant move on his part (gf must be a real prize too...not) and I would do nothing to support their plan.

Well, in their defense, DS and his gf were the first ones to talk about getting married there when I started planning the trip. (The trip was originally just to go back with my family, which just happened to be about the time of my granddaughter's birthday, which steam rolled into 4 birthdays and so on and so forth) Then my daughter jumped on it, and since she lives in my house, it was easy for her to run with it. The difference is that I am paying for DD's wedding, but DS and his gf had to plan out whether they had the money or not. (For the record, I'm not playing favorites. This is DS' second marriage. I paid for his first wedding, and he is paying for this one on his own.)

I can see both points of view. DS says that he and gf talked about it first. DD wants it to be about her. They will work it out. My kids are pretty good at working together. They are already talking about having the ceremony on different days and such. When they are ready to sit down and plan it, I already have a half formed idea that I think they will all like. DD wants to have her wedding on a Tuesday with rehearsal dinner at O'hana's and dinner the night of her wedding at Cinderella's Royal Table during MNSSHP. None of that will change. Then we will have a couple of days for the bday celebrations. My half formed idea is that DS' wedding can be on Friday. His gf has always wanted to go on a cruise, so they can have their ceremony and the next day head out on a Caribbean cruise or if my daughter is completely opposed to that, we all head out on a Disney cruise and have their wedding at sea.

[Cinderelley]

And most importantly, did she order her dress from Angelos?

LOL. My DD is having her wedding dress custom made. I don't know where DS' gf is going to get her dress.

I don't think the guest count will increase too much, since my family will already be there. Her side of the family isn't very big.

[VWL Mom]

Well, in their defense, DS and his gf were the first ones to talk about getting married there when I started planning the trip. (The trip was originally just to go back with my family, which just happened to be about the time of my granddaughter's birthday, which steam rolled into 4 birthdays and so on and so forth) Then my daughter jumped on it, and since she lives in my house, it was easy for her to run with it.
Ah, got it. So now if it's two weddings does that mean you get two weeks to relax on your own at the end?

[texas211]

Okay so now i understand the issue. I think. I consulted my wife on this.

May the spirit of Walt be with you... and a good bottle of wine.

[Cinderelley]

Two weeks of relaxation with texas211's bottle of wine (along with a psychiatric consult ;)) will probably be needed. lol

But speaking of playing practical jokes - my younger DS (who is getting married here in Arizona this December) said they changed their mind and were getting married in Disney World also. He started laughing before I fainted though.

[Cinderelley]

I went to look at Angelo's wedding dresses just for giggles. I'm going to get married at Disney now just to wear those dresses. Now to find a man . . . ;)

[texas211]

No, Angelos just up and closed with no warning. Brides are rioting.

[ANG]

You poor thing, are you sure your son isn't playing a cruel April fools joke on you? As far as referee, tell your daughter it's still all about her and tell your son he's on his own. I'm sorry but IMO it's a pretty ignorant move on his part (gf must be a real prize too...not) and I would do nothing to support their plan.

I completely agree

[Cinderelley]

No, Angelos just up and closed with no warning. Brides are rioting.

Phew! Barely saved from certain death. :D

My apologies to any married people who are offended by my view of marriage. ;)

[Cinderelley]

I got lucky. DS and his gf only want me and her mother there. Easy peezy. We may just wind up doing the ceremony the day that everyone else flies out. Then the next morning, they will fly out to board their cruise ship. :)

[disneycutie165]

I know the feeling. I'm getting married in May but both of my sister in law's are pregnant and due a month before our wedding, which will inevitably take a little time away from us on my fiancé's side. So, in a way I can understand your pain, but don't feel in the right position to offer advice!

[texas211]

That's the whole point to internet boards, to offer advise regardless if you are qualified or not. :)

[Cinderelley]

I know the feeling. I'm getting married in May but both of my sister in law's are pregnant and due a month before our wedding, which will inevitably take a little time away from us on my fiancé's side. So, in a way I can understand your pain, but don't feel in the right position to offer advice!

I'm always open to other people's points of view. Everyone has their own life experiences, which makes them in the right position to offer advice.
For example, it would never bother me if I was getting married and someone close to me wanted to do it also. I would think of it as a great opportunity to do something together. My DD obviously didn't feel that way. While I don't understand it, I have to respect her position and find a way to make it all work out. She kept saying "I don't want them getting married the same week I am." Therefore, we will probably do it the next week. At least I was already planning on being there for another week. :)