Lizzy
08-03-2009, 01:44 PM
Ok, this might end up being a book, but here it goes.
I recently got divorced, and have my child sharing parenting plan all ironed out and court ordered. Ex gets them during the day Mon and Wed. Then he gets them Friday morning until Saturday at 6 every other week and until 12 Sunday the other weeks. Due to his extra amounts of having them, I get not even half of what the state requires for Child Support. That is really not the important part.
I work 2 jobs, and the parenting plan was based on my work schedule mostly.
My first job, is with a Health Insurance company that pays double what the second job does, and is Mon- Fri 8-5. Problem is, it is boring as all get out, I don't understand half of the job, I can't get up in the morning well so I am late almost every day, and it is a 40 minute drive there and an hour drive home (traffic is strange in Melbourne) that does not include driving my kids all over town to Daycare, grandma's, dad's whatever! I can't stand it actually, but the pay is so good.
My second job (which I actually had first) is my restaurant manager job-which I have always said is the best job I have ever had. However, it is mostly nights, and doesn't pay squat.
Here is my problem. My sister is more than willing to keep the kids on the 2-3 nights a week that I would have to work. My boyfriend is also a restaurant manager, we started at the same store but I am transferring this week. I will welcome the fact that I will no longer be working opposite schedules from him, but between the two of us the bills will be barely making it. I will have the baby most days, but according to my court paperwork, I will have to still take them to dad's on Mon and Wed. Which while it sounds like it could be a good thing to get that extra sleep, I will actually be giving up a ton of extra time with them.
Or I could keep my other job and keep getting paid the big bucks but be miserable. I don't fit in with anybody there. The one friend I had there moved away. The restaurant job envigorates me. Many people work nights and still manage to raise normal kids right? My sister and the kids father live very close to my store and my house, so it wouldn't be a big deal to pick them up at 12:30 and take them home. They wouldn't lose a whole lot of sleep.
Any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated! I am so torn between two worlds that I know I can't keep it up forever. I have to make a choice, and I don't want it to be to late.
I recently got divorced, and have my child sharing parenting plan all ironed out and court ordered. Ex gets them during the day Mon and Wed. Then he gets them Friday morning until Saturday at 6 every other week and until 12 Sunday the other weeks. Due to his extra amounts of having them, I get not even half of what the state requires for Child Support. That is really not the important part.
I work 2 jobs, and the parenting plan was based on my work schedule mostly.
My first job, is with a Health Insurance company that pays double what the second job does, and is Mon- Fri 8-5. Problem is, it is boring as all get out, I don't understand half of the job, I can't get up in the morning well so I am late almost every day, and it is a 40 minute drive there and an hour drive home (traffic is strange in Melbourne) that does not include driving my kids all over town to Daycare, grandma's, dad's whatever! I can't stand it actually, but the pay is so good.
My second job (which I actually had first) is my restaurant manager job-which I have always said is the best job I have ever had. However, it is mostly nights, and doesn't pay squat.
Here is my problem. My sister is more than willing to keep the kids on the 2-3 nights a week that I would have to work. My boyfriend is also a restaurant manager, we started at the same store but I am transferring this week. I will welcome the fact that I will no longer be working opposite schedules from him, but between the two of us the bills will be barely making it. I will have the baby most days, but according to my court paperwork, I will have to still take them to dad's on Mon and Wed. Which while it sounds like it could be a good thing to get that extra sleep, I will actually be giving up a ton of extra time with them.
Or I could keep my other job and keep getting paid the big bucks but be miserable. I don't fit in with anybody there. The one friend I had there moved away. The restaurant job envigorates me. Many people work nights and still manage to raise normal kids right? My sister and the kids father live very close to my store and my house, so it wouldn't be a big deal to pick them up at 12:30 and take them home. They wouldn't lose a whole lot of sleep.
Any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated! I am so torn between two worlds that I know I can't keep it up forever. I have to make a choice, and I don't want it to be to late.