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parrothed26
06-09-2009, 08:23 AM
HELP! My fiance and I are getting married August 15th and I planned a honeymoon at WDW (of course). I made reservations at CBR and paid. Ok, Ive been to the world once a year or more since birth (31 trips), she has never been, and she thinks that its not worth the money, that it doesnt sem like much of a place for a honeymoon! She wants to go to a beach somewhere, anywhere, any just relax. The reservations are now canceled! So I picked my jaw up off the floor, and am writing this... How can I convince someone who has never been to the world that its perfect for a honeymoon? That its worth the money? I still have time to save this honeymoon (and marraige) but I need help now!:mickey::confused:

Toughbug
06-09-2009, 09:16 AM
Why not suggest a cruise, like a Disney cruise. You can do the four day cruise and three days at the parks so she can get the beach part of the honeymoon on the cruise and you get the parks. Also, it can expose her to the parks and just how much there is and what you will miss only having three days in the parks so she will want to go back.

That is what I would suggest. Compromise is the key. Married almost 21 years and it is still work but well worth it.

Missy_Mouses_Dad
06-09-2009, 09:54 AM
The first time the dw started working me to go to Disney, I had the same reaction..wasn't worth the time or money...after a dozen or so trips, I experience something new and exciting everytime. The atmosphere of Disney alone is enough to envelope anybody. Now we have gone with our 13 year old 10 years in a row for her birthday, and are leaving in two weeks for her 14th. Did you order the vacation planning dvd?

TheRustyScupper
06-09-2009, 10:05 AM
How can I convince someone who has never been to the world that its perfect for a honeymoon?

Remind her of the Love, Honor and OBEY promise. :yes: :clappy:



{No flames, just kidding.}

deedeebee
06-09-2009, 10:32 AM
This is not ddb, this is her Dear Husband, anyway , you should knock her in the head and drag her to the World while she is out.Just kidding, but how about half Vero beach and half Disney? That would be a very good compromise, and it shows that she is willing to work with you and if she doesn't then maybe it's not meant to be, I'm not saying that Disney is the be all and end all but the compromise is what I'm getting at. Reality smacks you dead in the face. Have a good time working it out and good luck.:mickey:

Stitchahula
06-09-2009, 10:38 AM
I like the land and sea suggestion. She gets what she wants and you get what you want, just a little of both. That way she can see that Disney is a fun place to go for future trips.:thumbsup:

steamboat willy
06-09-2009, 11:14 AM
How about suggesting your CBR for the first part of you Honeymoon and then a short drive to New Smyrna Beach for the wind down, set on the beach and relax. Nice beach South of Daytonia that used to be my spot for days off at Disney. After a days stay in the World, she may not want to leave. Make sure to do the easy going, not in a rush to catch Splash Mountain approach.
Set on the beach at the Poly and watch the watercraft go by. :tikki:
Take a hand held walk on the boardwalk the the Boardwalk Resort.
Get a table with a view and watch WISHES from a top the Contempoary Resort. :wine:

THEN GO CATCH SPLASH MOUNTAIN! :coaster:

My DW and I will be celebrating our 25th in less than 100 days, just confirmed our 10 night stay yesterday and will be making my ADR on Friday.
NO WHERE ELSE WE'D RATHER BE! :cool:

:thumbsup:

brian2000boston
06-09-2009, 11:15 AM
Splitting the trip sounds like a great idea and you both get what you want. Maybe even try something non Disney for half the vacation, Sanibel Island maybe? There are many great places you can go and get some great beach time and still show off your love for Disney.

Good luck!

1DisneyNut
06-09-2009, 11:31 AM
I suggest calling guest services and explain the situation to them. See if Mickey has time to give her a call explaining how he has always wanted to meet her. :mickey:

Scott C
06-09-2009, 11:44 AM
Reminds me of 1988...................DW had never been to the world--she could not see spending $160 per night for the poly. She thought that Disney was just an overhyped Six Flags. Boy was she surprised. Her jaw dropped when we pulled in -- and she had a fantastic time. Saw both parks and took the bus to the LBV Shopping Village. It was too cold for River Country though. I am glad that I stuck to it.

The Land/sea option does seem like a good compromise though.

Thanks
Scott C

FriendsofMickey
06-09-2009, 12:14 PM
I think you have had great responses already. We did the Disney Cruise years ago and it was fantastic.

Also, just splitting it among a local beach and Disney would be great as well.

Compromise is a good way to start the marriage. :mickey:

Rekenna
06-09-2009, 12:35 PM
OMGoodness! If you have been 31 times does she not realize that you are a WDW freak! Maybe this would be a great exercise for her to learn more about you. I too had to wheedle my DH to go to WDW, he griped and all that. Now he loves it, we actually went to Vegas in March (neither of us had been) instead of our romantic long weekend at Disney and he still says we should have gone to Disney! Love it!

We comment about how if we had known that Disney was so awesome (and surprisingly affordable if you do it right) we would have gone to the world for our Honeymoon instead of a basic beach vacation 12 years ago. I agree with other posters that a Disney cruise would be fantastic! Also, a couple days of Disney and a couple days at Vero Beach would be way cool!

Congratulations and good luck! It will all work out fine, God would not have brought both of you together if she could not be persuaded to see the "light"!:mickey:

BluewaterBrad
06-09-2009, 04:19 PM
Wow!! Can a Disney Nut and a "non Disney " coexist?:mickey:

Familyof4
06-09-2009, 04:32 PM
Well, Rookie mistake booking a vacation---HONEYMOON without her permission. My husband, even when trying to surprise me, still checks to see what I might like to do. The land/Sea combo sounds like a good combo--if you like boats. I myself am afraid to take a cruise, but have heard the Disney Cruise is great. How can someone not be happy in the Happiest place on earth. I am never in a bad mood there. You might want to show her some of the more adult areas in Disney....Epcot, Downtown Disney, It is not all rides. There is shopping, dancing, shopping, water sports, shopping. Seeing a theme here:-) Good Luck converting your Fiance.

BelleLovesTheBeast
06-09-2009, 05:38 PM
My DH and I had our honeymoon in WDW. It's very romantic. Here are some things we did:

Spend a day relaxing by the pool having fufu drinks
A romantic carriage ride at Port Orleans Riverside with champagne
Romantic dinner at Narcoossee's
Watch Illuminations from Rose & Crown while having a nice dinner & drinks
Dinner at Ohana's and a romantic stroll around the resort after dinner
Wear the bride & groom mouse ears. Have them personalized and wear them around the park. You'll receive special treatment.

jafarsgirl
06-09-2009, 06:14 PM
I think you have gotten some great ideas, but I just want to add something you might not get from this awesome board.

I can't stand WDW. Neither can my DH. We hate every second, from the booking until we get home. I have 4 children who love it, so we have been three times and will certainly go again. The kids have no idea how much we loathe the whole thing and hopefully never will. Now, I am not saying Disney isn't great. It certainly is, but not my thing at all. If my DH had taken me there on our honeymoon I would have been suicidal. Some people just don't "get" the magic and given how expensive it is, it makes it very hard to take.

Maybe you could go for a quick trip before the wedding? She might fall in love with WDW and you'd be all set. On the other hand, if she hates it, well, not the kind of memories you want for your first days/weeks as a married couple.


Good Luck!

Gregandmel
06-09-2009, 06:54 PM
Jafarsgirl: Well - even though you loathe WDW, at least you are staying at some GREAT resorts!!!!

I have to agree that even though it's hard to imagine anyone NOT loving WDW (and let's face it - if you are on these boards, more than likely you are a fanatic!) there ARE those out there where it's just "not their thing". My sister is a great example - hates crowds and can't imagine doing WDW - got almost nutty just going to the Omaha Zoo!!!!

That being said - you've gotten some great ideas on how to balance it out and compromise. Best advice is to talk it out so it's a win-win. It doesn't have to be "all or nothing". Best of luck to you.

(and - I'm still trying to figure out the loathing part of WDW when you stay at WL or Poly! ha ha) :sorry: :scratch:

bouncer
06-09-2009, 07:54 PM
1) communication is key-talk EVERYTHING out:number1:
2) DW is ALWAYS right:secret:
3) Vero Beach is Beautiful:thumbsup:
4) DW is ALWAYS right:secret:
5) Fort De Soto is Beautiful:thumbsup:
6) DW is ALWAYS right:secret:


DH and I have been married 12 years this Sunday. He has lots of hobbies (hunting & fishing primarily) and knows that WDW is mine. See if she'll do a compromise trip, if not don't force it. I go to WDW and he goes on hunting trips-separately. I'm not suggesting separate honeymoons-of course but down the road that may be an option. You could plan your honeymoon to Vero and ask if a 1 day stay would be acceptable before you return home just so she can get a little taste of the Happiest Place On Earth...

Whatever you decide: DW IS ALWAYS RIGHT. :D JK Good luck!

cherbie66
06-09-2009, 11:32 PM
I am having a similar problem. I have only been to Disney World once in my life (when I was 10 years old, I am now 22). But I have always been a MAJOR disney fan and longed to go to Disney again. Now I finally have the chance to go and I am beyond excited. I'm planning like crazy and talking about it constantly. My boyfriend has never been to Disney and he is less than enthused. He is going to make me happy, but he is worried that he will be bored and not enjoy himself. He seems to think that a week standing in line and seeing a giant mouse is going to be fun for my daughter but painful for him. This is SOOOOO frustrating for me. I keep telling him that he better go with an open mind and let himself have fun, because he really will enjoy it if he isn't so negative. I'm trying not to let him get me down, but I'm secretly worried that his negativity will ruin our trip. :(

dinahvixen
06-10-2009, 03:37 AM
My husband had never been to WDW and had no interest in going until I booked a trip to take our daughter who had just turned 4. He ended up liking the fact that SHE liked it, but he never did come around. I love it, grew up in FLA, so went often, and we have gone every two year since, but he just goes b/c the family likes it. Would not have been a great choice for us as honeymoon. Of course his idea of a good honeymoon would have been a hockey game somewhere.

Scott C
06-10-2009, 12:29 PM
I think that the reason that my family keeps going back -- is that everyone can do what they want there. Parks - fine / Golf - Fine/Hang out by the pool-fine/Drink around the world-fine

My point is something for everyone -- if you take the time to find out what WDW has to offer.

Thanks
Scott C

DisneyFr33k
06-11-2009, 08:26 AM
HELP! My fiance and I are getting married August 15th and I planned a honeymoon at WDW (of course). I made reservations at CBR and paid. Ok, Ive been to the world once a year or more since birth (31 trips), she has never been, and she thinks that its not worth the money, that it doesnt sem like much of a place for a honeymoon! She wants to go to a beach somewhere, anywhere, any just relax. The reservations are now canceled! So I picked my jaw up off the floor, and am writing this... How can I convince someone who has never been to the world that its perfect for a honeymoon? That its worth the money? I still have time to save this honeymoon (and marraige) but I need help now!:mickey::confused:

When we got married, we flew down to Orlando, rented a car and drove to Cocoa Beach. We rented a condo there for the week. For 2 days of that week (AK wasn't open yet), we drove over to WDW and visited MK, Epcot and MGM. This might be a good compromise and maybe allow her to see how much fun it is!! Good luck!

KAT1811
06-11-2009, 10:28 AM
Remind her of the Love, Honor and OBEY promise. :yes: :clappy:



{No flames, just kidding.}

LOL! :funny:

I think this is the first time you have made me laugh!


Wow!! Can a Disney Nut and a "non Disney " coexist?:mickey:

Eventually we Disney nuts corrupt the non Disney people!


I can't stand WDW. Neither can my DH. We hate every second, from the booking until we get home.


La, La, La, La, La. :noevil: I'm going to pretend that I didn't read that!

Personally I would recommend skipping WDW on your honeymoon all together and finding a vacation spot you can both enjoy or compromising and doing a split stay. I wouldn't risk tainting her for life if you drag her there unwillingly. A honeymoon is a very special time in both your lives. Try and find something you both will like, a few days in the keys and then a few days in the World or make her promise that if you go elsewhere on your honeymoon you'll spend your first anniversary in WDW. As the wedding approaches things will be insane, you'll probably look forward to a few days relaxing by the pool. A marriage is all about compromising and sometimes compromising should be called "giving up what you really want to make the one you love happy".

Daddy Mouse
06-11-2009, 10:40 AM
DW acquiesced to a honeymoon to WDW for a week . She wasn’t really excited but she did it for me. That trip was rainy and cool and I still lost her to the Fab 5 and princesses. 25 years later WDW is the main vacation spot for us with smaller trips planned for other places.

Like others maybe a split trip would be nice. Good Luck!

LoriR
06-11-2009, 09:26 PM
Don't do it! Personally, I think you should go somewhere you BOTH want to go and that neither of you has been before. It's fun to explore something new together. Also, I love WDW, but some people don't and she might not. If you have been 31 times, go for a weekend some other time as a surprise, but don't go for your honeymoon. You'll go again. BUt it can be really annoying for someone new to WDW to go with "one of us" when we think we know everything there is to see and do. It can take the fun of the experience if the other person has done it all before.

Start out on the right foot by going somewhere you both want to go equally. You'll have plenty of trips to Disney once you have kids!

parrothed26
06-11-2009, 10:15 PM
Ok, first thank you everyone for replying and for your suggestions. We talked and all other destinations have been looked at and I offered to compromise... Beach, cruise, etc. even offered Hawaii and no disney ;) basically what she proposes is she'll be fine with WDW if I allow her to sleep in and relax on the trip lol. While that may be hard at times ( Im a morning person) I think Ill manage if it takes our honeymoon to the most magical place on earth, remembering of course to take it slow so she can enjoy it. Thank you all for the help:grouphug::mickey3:

mickeys_princess_mom
06-11-2009, 11:03 PM
Ok, first thank you everyone for replying and for your suggestions. We talked and all other destinations have been looked at and I offered to compromise... Beach, cruise, etc. even offered Hawaii and no disney ;) basically what she proposes is she'll be fine with WDW if I allow her to sleep in and relax on the trip lol. While that may be hard at times ( Im a morning person) I think Ill manage if it takes our honeymoon to the most magical place on earth, remembering of course to take it slow so she can enjoy it. Thank you all for the help:grouphug::mickey3:
OK, now, you may marry her! Good job, both of you!:bride: :groom:
(Had been reading this thread with clenched teeth, holding back!;))

mickeys_princess_mom
06-11-2009, 11:10 PM
Personally I would recommend skipping WDW on your honeymoon all together and finding a vacation spot you can both enjoy or compromising and doing a split stay. I wouldn't risk tainting her for life if you drag her there unwillingly.

A marriage is all about compromising and sometimes compromising should be called "giving up what you really want to make the one you love happy".
;) :faint: :ambal:
It's not 50/50, and it's not 100/0...More like 80/20, but from BOTH sides...

KAT1811
06-12-2009, 07:12 AM
;) :faint: :ambal:
It's not 50/50, and it's not 100/0...More like 80/20, but from BOTH sides...

Yea. But that is something you learn over time! LOL! Sort of like making a dish from scratch with no recipe, it takes years of practice! ;)

aprilisis
06-12-2009, 08:21 AM
Wow!! Can a Disney Nut and a "non Disney " coexist?:mickey:

I don't think so...it is a deal breaker for me! :mickey:

mickeys_princess_mom
06-12-2009, 09:01 AM
Yea. But that is something you learn over time! LOL! Sort of like making a dish from scratch with no recipe, it takes years of practice! ;)

:high5:

Mrs Bus Driver
06-12-2009, 10:33 AM
I just love happy endings :mickey:

BMan62
06-12-2009, 11:27 AM
Congrats, dude! She's a keeper! :thumbsup:

Just remember though, now you owe her! FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! :thedolls: :D

cer
06-12-2009, 11:36 AM
So glad to hear that everything worked out for both of you! :thumbsup:

brownie
06-12-2009, 04:21 PM
Marriage is about compromise, and I think that trying to force Walt Disney World on her would only make her resent it. Some options would be to split your honeymoon between Walt Disney World and the beach, or maybe a cruise. Another option would be to save the trip to Walt Disney World, maybe for your first anniversary. It's something the two of you will need to work out together.

DisneyFr33k
06-13-2009, 06:54 AM
Ok, first thank you everyone for replying and for your suggestions. We talked and all other destinations have been looked at and I offered to compromise... Beach, cruise, etc. even offered Hawaii and no disney ;) basically what she proposes is she'll be fine with WDW if I allow her to sleep in and relax on the trip lol. While that may be hard at times ( Im a morning person) I think Ill manage if it takes our honeymoon to the most magical place on earth, remembering of course to take it slow so she can enjoy it. Thank you all for the help:grouphug::mickey3:

I'm glad you two came to an agreement. I am sure you both will have a great time. Maybe if you are up early (and she is sleeping in), you could go get breakfast and serve it to her in bed. :eat: Romantic things like that :heart: will have her remembering WDW on high notes and want to return again and again (like all of us WDW junkies). :mickey:

Good luck! :fingers: Let us know how it goes!