ShelbyAD
10-15-2008, 01:52 PM
Hello. Sorry I haven't been on here in enons. Things have been crazy. (long post)
Still working at the same place. Still the same office "stuff".
We are settled into our new home. Met quite a few of the neighbors. Been to a few functions. DH & I are on the Board of the HOA. Our dog has adjusted quite well to the new house. She loves it and stays in shape with all the stairs we have. There are 13 that go from the 1st to 2nd floor. There are 17 that go from the basement to the 1st floor, and 4 that go from the bonus room to another bedroom. For a grand total of 34 stairs. I've been getting my exercise ;)
My step-daughter "H" has NOT improved. As some of you may remember, she is Anorexic. She went to a rehab center last year for 65 days. She came home in January. She weighed 79 pounds when she went away and weighed 99 pounds when she came back. Guess what? She still weighs 99 pounds she has not gained anything in 10 months. :shake:
She was eating what she was suppose to - but we don't know what kind (if any) exercise she has been doing. She's not suppose to be doing any. She was seeing a therapist, specialist, and nutritionist. After 10 months of getting no where with all 3 of them, we have stopped taking her. She's lying to all 3 of them and only telling them what they want to hear. I had spoken with her therapist. She was shocked at what I had to tell her. That confirmed that "H" was lying to her. 9 out of 10 times, everything everyone is telling her is going in one ear and out the other. We're paying almost $200 a month for that? :eek:
She's 15 yrs old and has the body of a 9 yr old. She still does not have her "woman hood". That stopped over a year ago. ALL of the doctors have told her that she is doing major damage to herself and there is an 80% chance that she will not be able to have children. She doesn't care.
She lies ALL the time and straight faced. Her mother caved in and let her get a Learners Permit to drive. Then her mother expects US to teach her how to drive. I don't think so I told DH that she would have to show considerable improvement, be more responsible and mature. Until then, she will NOT get behind either of our cars. I have a car and DH has a 4Runner. He doesn't want her driving a big vehicle. I can understand that (if we were talking about a normal child). I told DH that I do not want her driving my car period. Unfortunately I am out numbered in that department (because I am not a "parent"). DH said I can tell "H" that she will not drive my car until she is more responsible & mature. We'll see what is more important to her.
DH & I have gotten into a few fights about her. I try to avoid it (b/c I don't want to fight about it). A few weeks ago, both girls were over our house. For dinner one night we all just fended - got whatever we wanted. "H" had only a bagel and some cottage cheese. I said something to DH and asked if he was going to say anything to her. He called his ex- and she said for him not to say anything. (I bet you can see where this is going). Yes, DH & I got into this HUGE screaming fight about it. Apparently DH & his ex have decided to leave her alone. She has all the "tools" she needs to get better, she just doesn't want to. I couldn't talk or even look at "H" all weekend. It would upset me too much. Sad thing, she is doing it on purpose - hoping to cause problems. Because that way she is getting attention, granted it's negative attention, but attention none the less.
So I asked DH if he was prepared to burry his first child? I will be surprised if she makes it through high school.
She is saving every single dime she can get her hands on. She will do almost anything for money. I said jokingly to her that our neighbor needs someone to clean up her dog's "mess". She volunteered (b/c she would get paid). My neighbor, of course, was not serious. But "H" took it seriously.
I did talk to DH to see if he thought "H" would get into selling drugs to get more money. He doesn't think she will. I think he's more hoping she won't.
She will not spend a single penny on anything. No clothes, shoes, purse, etc. NOTHING. She is saving it all for the day she graduates HS and moves out. Whether she goes to college or just moves out. She said she is counting the days.
Still working at the same place. Still the same office "stuff".
We are settled into our new home. Met quite a few of the neighbors. Been to a few functions. DH & I are on the Board of the HOA. Our dog has adjusted quite well to the new house. She loves it and stays in shape with all the stairs we have. There are 13 that go from the 1st to 2nd floor. There are 17 that go from the basement to the 1st floor, and 4 that go from the bonus room to another bedroom. For a grand total of 34 stairs. I've been getting my exercise ;)
My step-daughter "H" has NOT improved. As some of you may remember, she is Anorexic. She went to a rehab center last year for 65 days. She came home in January. She weighed 79 pounds when she went away and weighed 99 pounds when she came back. Guess what? She still weighs 99 pounds she has not gained anything in 10 months. :shake:
She was eating what she was suppose to - but we don't know what kind (if any) exercise she has been doing. She's not suppose to be doing any. She was seeing a therapist, specialist, and nutritionist. After 10 months of getting no where with all 3 of them, we have stopped taking her. She's lying to all 3 of them and only telling them what they want to hear. I had spoken with her therapist. She was shocked at what I had to tell her. That confirmed that "H" was lying to her. 9 out of 10 times, everything everyone is telling her is going in one ear and out the other. We're paying almost $200 a month for that? :eek:
She's 15 yrs old and has the body of a 9 yr old. She still does not have her "woman hood". That stopped over a year ago. ALL of the doctors have told her that she is doing major damage to herself and there is an 80% chance that she will not be able to have children. She doesn't care.
She lies ALL the time and straight faced. Her mother caved in and let her get a Learners Permit to drive. Then her mother expects US to teach her how to drive. I don't think so I told DH that she would have to show considerable improvement, be more responsible and mature. Until then, she will NOT get behind either of our cars. I have a car and DH has a 4Runner. He doesn't want her driving a big vehicle. I can understand that (if we were talking about a normal child). I told DH that I do not want her driving my car period. Unfortunately I am out numbered in that department (because I am not a "parent"). DH said I can tell "H" that she will not drive my car until she is more responsible & mature. We'll see what is more important to her.
DH & I have gotten into a few fights about her. I try to avoid it (b/c I don't want to fight about it). A few weeks ago, both girls were over our house. For dinner one night we all just fended - got whatever we wanted. "H" had only a bagel and some cottage cheese. I said something to DH and asked if he was going to say anything to her. He called his ex- and she said for him not to say anything. (I bet you can see where this is going). Yes, DH & I got into this HUGE screaming fight about it. Apparently DH & his ex have decided to leave her alone. She has all the "tools" she needs to get better, she just doesn't want to. I couldn't talk or even look at "H" all weekend. It would upset me too much. Sad thing, she is doing it on purpose - hoping to cause problems. Because that way she is getting attention, granted it's negative attention, but attention none the less.
So I asked DH if he was prepared to burry his first child? I will be surprised if she makes it through high school.
She is saving every single dime she can get her hands on. She will do almost anything for money. I said jokingly to her that our neighbor needs someone to clean up her dog's "mess". She volunteered (b/c she would get paid). My neighbor, of course, was not serious. But "H" took it seriously.
I did talk to DH to see if he thought "H" would get into selling drugs to get more money. He doesn't think she will. I think he's more hoping she won't.
She will not spend a single penny on anything. No clothes, shoes, purse, etc. NOTHING. She is saving it all for the day she graduates HS and moves out. Whether she goes to college or just moves out. She said she is counting the days.