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Old 04-27-2012, 01:15 PM
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So we don't have the best relationship with my husband's sisters. Long story and I've told it here before. It's always something and it's always crazy. The latest is my sister in law is getting divorced. She did not tell us and honestly it's none of our business- really and truly I mean that, it's none of our business. But, I am on facebook and connected with her and her kids as well. That's about the only time/way she talks to us for a while now. Anyways, her husband now got on facebook and requested me as a friend. I accepted thinking nothing of it, just that he must have just got on facebook and was looking for people he knows. Then he posted he was surprised I accepted because of the goings on. I said what ? He respondered that she left him and her younger child and they divorcing. He seems pretty upset. Bascially I didn't know what to say so I said I was sorry to hear that, hang in there, things will get better.

So... I feel so weird since she didn't tell us. Should I say anything to her (Meaning like sorry to hear about your divorce or we're here if you need us)? Should I un-friend him because of potential problems? Like I said it's none of my business and lord knows I don't want any more problems or drama with her. I am thinking because she didn't actually tell us I should just let it be. Seems to me like she doesn't want us to know. Awkward.
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Old 04-27-2012, 01:22 PM
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I wouldn't say anything. Like you said, if she wanted people to know she would say something (and hopefully at some point she will tell you brother and the family). As far as un-friending him, I wouldn't do that either. If she has a problem with him being your friend, that would mean she would have to say something to you about it and the whole situation. You can deal with that when and if that happens (IMO).
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Old 04-27-2012, 01:33 PM
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I wouldn't say anything. Like you said, if she wanted people to know she would say something (and hopefully at some point she will tell you brother and the family). As far as un-friending him, I wouldn't do that either. If she has a problem with him being your friend, that would mean she would have to say something to you about it and the whole situation. You can deal with that when and if that happens (IMO).
I'm with Beth on this. If she comes to you fine, but until then I'd leave it alone. We have a challenging relationship with my husband's sister and I generally just try to stay out of everything. Less stress for everyone.
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I'm with Beth and Cindy. Good advice.
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Honestly, I would stay friends with him even if she told you, if you have had a good relationship in the past. The child will need the support and to know that his/her family still loves him. If you can do that easier through his father, all the more power to you.
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Thanks all. Good advice. I agree Cinderelly, we would still want to be there for our neice most definitely especially now when she needs people around for support.
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Thanks all. Good advice. I agree Cinderelly, we would still want to be there for our neice most definitely especially now when she needs people around for support.
Good luck to you. Unfortunately, the welfare of the children usually gets lost somewhere in the middle of divorces. Glad you can keep her welfare in mind.
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That is awkward! I agree with the rest--go on as normal and keep in touch with your niece.
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