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Need to vent about Christmas Eve dinner
My sister just called and has me really angry and upset about our holiday meals. Christmas Eve dinner is at my house - every year for the past 12 - 14 years (I lost track). Every year, I usually cook turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, etc. My Mom then cooks Christmas Day dinner and always has the same foods the next day - and I hate that. So this year, I decided to shake things up a bit and we're having hot sausage, meatballs, scalloped potatoes, chicken soup, and various other foods so that we're not eating the same things for 2 days in a row. Here's what has me upset: both my Mom and my sister have complained about the menu - well, not outright complained, but have made snide little comments about this person won't like that and that person won't like that. I can't believe that they have the nerve to complain as I do all the planning, shopping, prep-work, and cooking myself - and I am a pretty good cook. I don't complain about my Mom's choices for a meal and my sister has never, ever cooked a holiday meal - actually, that's not quite true either. She has her DH's family and my parents over for Christmas Eve lunch. I've never been invited because she figures I'll be too busy cooking for dinner anyway (she's told me this). This is why I feel like a Grinch and hate the holidays. If it could be just my DH and DD's, I'd be so much happier.
Kathy șoș
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Oh, how I feel your pain. DH & I were just talking last evening about how we feel a terrible cold or the flu coming on and the peak may just hit about Christmas day. We may just have to stay home and be with the kids christmas day and enjoy each other's company by ourselves.
Don't get me wrong. I love my family as well as all of my very extended family, but it really gets to be drudgery when you do nothing but cook, clean and go all day Christmas eve and Christmas day. It takes away the spirit of the holiday.
No you aren't being a grinch, just human.
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Originally Posted by Sean Riley Taylor's Mom
Your menu sounds great. I wish I was going to your house.
How about this? You tell your family that you're not going to be home and come here instead. I'll tell mine that dinner is cancelled and we can enjoy the holiday together! All Intercotees are invited as long as you don't complain about when it is and what you're eating!
Kathy șoș
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Originally Posted by kakn7294
How about this? You tell your family that you're not going to be home and come here instead. I'll tell mine that dinner is cancelled and we can enjoy the holiday together! All Intercotees are invited as long as you don't complain about when it is and what you're eating!
Sounds great to me!!
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I'm sorry that you are going through this. I think that you, as the host, get to choose what YOU are going to cook! And it all sounds so tasty! It's not like you are ordering take out! (Even if you were, it is your home and your party and it is your right to do so!)
I think some people are very resistant to change, and they will make a big fuss no matter what you do. (Kind of like wedding planning, where everyone feels entitled to offer an unsolicited opinion!) However, once they get there, I am sure that everyone will have a great time. Good luck.
-Laura
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It's the Holiday Season....
UGHHHH. It's so hard to make everyone happy. Why can't we all just be"that person" who shows up with nothing more than a bottle they picked up on the way over?
I am hosting, cookinig, cleaning, spending $$ on having Christmas and my sister calls to tell me that she would bring some brownies. I'm like Brownies... it's a holiday meal, that's it. A $1.29 box of brownies. Whatever...
Just my little story.
Julie
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I feel your pain. Last year my DH decided we would host his brother and family for Christmas Eve without telling me. He told me afterwards. Now a little history - I don't exactly get along with my sister in law. So I decide to make the best of it. I made a bit Italian meal and got nothing but snide comments about everything we had done. Our house is to small - Italian is not a holiday meal. It just wasn't the most pleasant experience. This year Dh asked me if I would do dinner again. I flat out said no!! So nothing was said about getting together with them. I was so hoping for a quiet night at home with just DH and DD. Not to happen I guess DH and his brother decided we were going to their house. I asled what I needed to bring and was told an appetiser. So I decided not to do anything special. I am taking a cheese, beef stick and cracker platter. If they don't like it tobad!! I don't feel like trying to please them this year. Thankfully Christmas Day will be quiet and relaxing. Just the three of us. I do wish the holidays could be more relaxing and not so stressful.
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I've been through this but with Thanksgiving (except there is no Thanksgiving Eve)... which is why I no longer give a thought to us (the immediate family) going to WDW Thanksgiving week and being away from the extended family. So next year, let's all go to WDW for Christmas!
Ellen
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Originally Posted by ElenitaB
I've been through this but with Thanksgiving (except there is no Thanksgiving Eve)... which is why I no longer give a thought to us (the immediate family) going to WDW Thanksgiving week and being away from the extended family. So next year, let's all go to WDW for Christmas!
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As much as I hate being away from my family around the holidays the meal part never makes me feel bad. This year for me,DH and DS's I decided to do something different, crab cakes,shrimp cocktail, crab legs. I told DH I didn't want to be traditional and just wanted to do whatever, he happily agreed and this is what we will eat this year. Next year it could be ham,turkey,filet mignon but this year its seafood. Good luck with you meal, it sounds wonderful to me. However it turns out have a very Merry Christmas.
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Kathy, I totally agree with you. I wouldn't want to eat the same meal for Christmas both days either. Families can be such a pain in the backside. I guess one solution could be to tell your mom and your sister if there is some other dish they would like to bring, be my guest. This way you can still have your planned meal and they can help you out a little too. If they don't like it....oh well. Don't sweat the small stuff. Keep your chin up. Ben and I'll be right up and I'll even help cook and clean up too. Happy Holidays!!
Just a side note, to go along with the other poster's comments about being sick......I actually went into labor and delivered my baby on Christmas day. It got me out of a lousy christmas with my estranged father and his wife. My mom, step-dad, sister and bil all thanked me for that one. I called it divine intervention and the answer to my prayers.
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Originally Posted by ElenitaB
So next year, let's all go to WDW for Christmas!
Or my place!!! It's what everyone we are related to does EVERY year!
Kathy -- you can hide out at my place too! Your idea for dinner sounds wonderful!
I host Christmas Dinners on December 23rd, 24th and 25th. December 23 is a Beef Tenderloin, and December 25 is a Turkey and Ham.....so December 24 is Penne and Meatballs. Sorry that's how it is. I don't like meat, and the idea of having roast meals three nights in a row is more than I can imagine! That said, my BinL and SinL look forward to our dinners on the 24th (It is always some kind of pasta). I think the key is to NOT get an opinion in advance. You're doing the work, cook what you want to! Heck, when my husbands dear Gran used to do Christmas Eve, it was KFC! It's the time with your loved ones that matters!
Jennifer (aka Mickey'sGirl)
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Originally Posted by ElenitaB
So next year, let's all go to WDW for Christmas!
Works for me! Mickey's cooking next year!
Originally Posted by dolphinmickey9170
Kathy, I totally agree with you. I wouldn't want to eat the same meal for Christmas both days either. Families can be such a pain in the backside. I guess one solution could be to tell your mom and your sister if there is some other dish they would like to bring, be my guest. This way you can still have your planned meal and they can help you out a little too. If they don't like it....oh well. Don't sweat the small stuff. Keep your chin up. Ben and I'll be right up and I'll even help cook and clean up too. Happy Holidays!!
You guys are more than welcome and I won't even expect you to cook or clean up! They have decided now that they are bringing something - I think because they don't want what's being served. Oh well, don't eat - more leftovers for me.
Originally Posted by Mickey'sGirl
I think the key is to NOT get an opinion in advance. You're doing the work, cook what you want to! Heck, when my husbands dear Gran used to do Christmas Eve, it was KFC! It's the time with your loved ones that matters!
I tried to not tell them but my Mom pestered me everyday until I finally broke down and told her. It's the same reason that they didn't know about our last Disney trip until May (we went in August) - they just can't leave it alone and let me be happy. I agree, it's not the food but the time together that counts - I do love my family even though they drive me crazy at times like this.
Thanks everyone for letting me vent. I feel much better just knowing I'm not alone!
Kathy șoș
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Ah Kathy, you are so not alone.
I am sitting in the doghouse right now.
(at home, having a drink with lots of peace and quiet getting presents wrapped)
One side of my family had a "family" party tonight, a couple hundred miles away. I just didn't have the energy to deal with all the drama this year.
Family... you got to love em eh? Beats doing 5 - 7 for throttling them.
LOL
And as far as food goes...
Shoot, it was many years ago my family started a tradition that I have continued with my own.
Christmas Eve dinner consists of several different types of cheese, a few types of crackers, beef stick, apples, pears and grapes.
For Christmas dinner, we make a pan of Lasagna a couple days before Christmas.
I would rather spend time enjoying the day than cooking and doing dishes!!!
Oh, were down with Mickey cooking next year. LTT?
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Just put nice little poems at each place setting:
Have a seat at my table
and take a good look
The first to complain
is the next meal's cook.......
I had to learn a long time ago to have wonderful Christmas' in spite of certain family members attempts to ruin it! Enjoy your hubby and your girls, focus on them and don't worry about anything else.
Merry Christmas!
Jen
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I'm jumping on the next plane if you are cooking all that for us, Kathy!! We can all wear our various Mickey ears and Mickey shirts and play Mickey's Christmas Carol and Disney holiday music, how fun! I have set down the ground rules with dh's family (they are about an hour from us, so not too bad to do), Christmas Eve and Christmas is for our immediate family. They can come here, but we go nowhere. We have been to Florida a couple times with the kids and that's been fun since my family is there. I think things progress once you have your own family and sometimes you have to be the grinch, but if you ask me, they are the ones being the grinchies!!
Jenemmy, I love your poem!!!
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Originally Posted by ElenitaB
I've been through this but with Thanksgiving (except there is no Thanksgiving Eve)... which is why I no longer give a thought to us (the immediate family) going to WDW Thanksgiving week and being away from the extended family. So next year, let's all go to WDW for Christmas!
I am giving serious consideration to this.
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