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Overbearing parents
We went over to MK yesterday just for the day (we are locals) and the kids wanted to play in Pooh's play area (near the old 20K Leagues). My wife and I watched quite a few parents (mostly dads) who were WAY too involved in the way that their kids were playing with others.
In one instance, one kid (not one of ours) cut in line on one of the small slides (which we do not condone with our kids) and this one father went ballistic. He held the child in question back while his kid went down the slide.
OK, first of all, if your kid is too scared to slide down a two foot high slide, don't force the issue. Second, I would never think about restraining a child unless that child was mine. If I ever saw this happen to my kid, I would have quietly taken that person aside (so as not to have made a scene) and addressed the issue.
Just an observation....
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Wow...I think parents should discipline their OWN children and not butt in where other kids are concerned. If another child cut in line I would wait to see if his/her parents said something to them. If MY child cut in line I would go over to her and escort her to the back of the line - explaining that everyone has to wait their turn and play fairly. I would never discipline a child that wasn't my own and I would be all over anyone who tried to dicsipline mine - especially a stranger!
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Maybe the child they held back was in their party. It's hard to judge a situation without all of the facts.
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The child in question was not in the other parent's party, Kelly...thanks.
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I don't think I'd discipline another person's child... I would use the opportunity to show my own son how to effectively handle a situation like that. For instance, getting my son to politely ask the other child to go to the back of the line. It won't always work, but that in itself is a lesson to teach my child.
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Originally Posted by Boost
He held the child in question back while his kid went down the slide.
I don't know if this means he physically held the child back or not. But you don't touch another kid.
However, if another child was cutting in line, I think someone needs to say something. It doesn't have to be rude, it doesn't have to be hateful, but I think it should be said. But you don't touch them, and you don't solve it by being rude, or forcing your way in front of them, that's just being as bad as they are and that doesn't solve anything.
When we were there a couple weeks ago, while waiting in line at Soarin', a group of 3 or 4 kids (12 - 14 y.o.) were winding their way through the line saying "our chaperone is up there", although the smirks on their faces said otherwise. When we (myself and the people behind me) asked "where", they turned and went the other way as if to leave. What they were doing was wrong, and they knew it, but they'd have gone right on to the front if no one had bothered to let them know that it was being noticed.
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sorry boost.
whenever i see a kid doing something wrong i stop them and explain to them they are doing wrong and need to do right.i dont care if they are mine or not.
i guess it just depends on how old the breaker was.
was he old enough to know better?
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I don't really think it is appropriate to yell at another child or physically touch them except in rare conditions. Line cutting for a slide is not one of them. I work at a playground in the summer that has a day camp. It is in Center City Philadelphia. Many of our kids are poor or lower middle income.
The park is also frequented by the people nearby who live in million dollar homes. Now I'm not stereotyping, but often these moms come with their kids and expect the playground all to themselves. Once a girl in a nice sundress started bouncing a ball back and forth with one of my kids. Well wouldn't you know the ball bounced in the mud and got the girls dress dirty. Well the mom would have none of that, and started yelling at MY camper! As if it is a 5 year old boy's fault that you bought your daughter out to a muddy park the day after a thunderstorm
Another time, one of these mothers was letting her son run in and out of the swing area. I saw her watching him. And of course he got kicked in the head (not really bad, but enough to make him cry). Again it is the camper's fault and my fault.
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I have no problem telling someone else's child to be careful, or wait for so and so to get down (of course in a nice way) if it is an old enough child to understand. However, I would never put my hand's on someone else's child, unless, it was to prevent them from getting hurt or hurting someone else. In that case, giving them a hand if they are stuck up high, etc.
I would have a real problem with someone else putting their hands on one of my kids unless it was for one of the reasons above.
That being said...I am always "on top" of my kids when they are in that type of situation so, if they were doing something wrong I would be the first to remove them from the situation. Also, to remove them if there was another child causing a problem.
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I would never touch an unknown kid unless it was a danger issue - caught a kid falling out of a shopping cart once.
However, I have no issue using the firm parent voice and telling a child to wait their turn, asking them to "knock it off", watch their mouths, use please and thank you etc..... I believe this can be done respectfully and without yelling.
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It is a hard lesson to teach kids, though, that some people are just rude and don't follow guidelines.
When I'm with DD4 in line for something, inevitably a child will try to worm his/her way in front of her. I make a point of saying to Jenna, but loud enough for the other kids, that "There's two more kids in front of you, and then it's your turn," so the other kid knows that I'm onto them LOL If it's a little kid, I'll politely explain that there's a spot available BEHIND her LOL
Touching strange kids? No way, not unless they're in some kind of immediate danger.
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Wow,I am really surprised at the responses in this thread.
If I am watching my child and they do something wrong,they WILL get in trouble.If another kid with no home training does something as petty as "cut in line", my kids know that they have to stand up for themselves. Do you guys really think it's appropriate to scold someone else's child? I definitely disagree.I for one would be furious if a stranger put their hands on my child, or spoke harshly to one of them.I say unless someone is in danger of being hurt,let the kids work it out for themselves.That's something they need to learn to do.
I say mind your own business unless someone is going to get hurt.The kids will have forgotten about it in 2 seconds anyway.
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Originally Posted by tinkerbelle75
Wow,I am really surprised at the responses in this thread.
If I am watching my child and they do something wrong,they WILL get in trouble.If another kid with no home training does something as petty as "cut in line", my kids know that they have to stand up for themselves. Do you guys really think it's appropriate to scold someone else's child? I definitely disagree.I for one would be furious if a stranger put their hands on my child, or spoke harshly to one of them.I say unless someone is in danger of being hurt,let the kids work it out for themselves.That's something they need to learn to do.
I say mind your own business unless someone is going to get hurt.The kids will have forgotten about it in 2 seconds anyway.
Unfortunately, not all kids have the maturity to "work it out" amongst themselves. I agree that if something needs to be SAID, then I'll say it, but I do not agree with touching another person's child. And telling a child to stand his place in line is hardly scolding that child. And who am I to assume they have no home training? Regardless of how well you teach your children, they have their moments. For that matter, adults have their moments.
To the OP, what did the parents do of the child that was handled by another adult?
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Frankly, if my kids did something rude, disrespectful, or otherwise wrong and I didn't catch them at it, I would honestly hope someone would call them on it. In fact, it would probably have a greater impact on them if someone else did say something instead of just me.
No, you never lay hands on them, and you don't go off in some insane rant, but someone should let them know that their bad behavior was noticed.
I don't want them to learn that it's a matter of hiding their behavior from me. Bad behavior effects other people, and is wrong even if I don't see it. I want my kids to understand they need to behave properly when I'm not around as well as when I am, and as they get older and venture off on their own. I want them to understand that they are responsible for the consequences for their actions, that when they do something wrong, they have to "face the music" themselves. I'm there to support, and protect them, but consequences for their actions are theirs to deal with.
Sure, cutting in line is a small issue, but better they learn with small issues, that much larger ones later in life.
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Originally Posted by tinkerbelle75
Do you guys really think it's appropriate to scold someone else's child? I definitely disagree.I for one would be furious if a stranger put their hands on my child, or spoke harshly to one of them.
I do think it is appropriate to say something. I am not talking about a rant or scold but a reminder.
"Please wait your turn"
"The line starts back there"
"excuse me, that is not appropriate language and I would appreciate you not using it"
"No, please do not throw that rock"
"excuse me, you need to watch where you are going on your skates, thank you"
"You are being rude, please remember your manners"
etc......
I believe that todays kids are not held accountable for their actions. Look at how many people have the "don't you dare reprimand my kid" mentality - doesn't this bug you? It does me.
Example: As adults, we have law enforcement looking over our shoulders to "remind us" how to behave. What is wrong with an adult who is out and about and see's kids acting badly, points out that behavior and reminds the kids that there are standards and rules that need to be obeyed?
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Putting the hands on the child...uh...NO...the only exception I would say is if the child is totally "unresponsive" I might venture to perhaps "tap" them softly on the shoulder with a polite "excuse me".
I've had to "call children out" who were destined to "kill themselves" to stop them because their parents...well you know the story...were in "Never Land" (I remember one little boy in particular climbing on the OUTSIDE of the tunnels at McDonalds...I thought my heart was going to stop...one slip and he'd be on the concrete with a busted head). I've stopped kids from pounding on their siblings and I guess I've "touched" them at that time and then asked them to take me to their parents. Sometimes you've got to step in.
My first course of action would be to walk up with my child and stand in line with them saying something to the effect "You are next...don't let everybody else in front of you". If a child rudely continued to cut in front I might say something to the effect of "excuse me but we are next". If the little " " continued to push ahead I'd probably just explain to my child that some are just RUDE.
Primarily I'd want to use that time as a moment to encourage my child to stand up for himself. Or stand up there with him. Usually an adult's presence in line is more than enough to scare kids into proper behavior.
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I may speak in my "mommy voice" to other kids if they are doing something really wrong, or may say something to their parents! I would NEVER touch anyone else's kid or hold them back! If it were me and cutting ahead was so important to this kid, I'd use it as a learning experience for my own child and bring it to their attention how rude it was and how we should never do that. If my kids get out of line, I handle them, but I do not mind if another adult nicely speaks to them. It is important that they learn to respect ALL adults. It is not ok for anyone to EVER lay their hands on my child, if I saw something like that going on, there would be bigger problems than whatever was going on with the kids!
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I'm don't have any kids. But if a stranger grabs my child aside to "lecture/question"them, th guy's teeth would be knocked out.
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