Anyone have a family member who acts like this about Disney??

[Dsnygirl]

So, I just got back from the BEST girlfriends' trip... 4 nights, 5 days... Disney, sun, friendship & laughter. Very nice, VERY much needed.

I hesitated to tell my mom I was going, as she just rolls her eyes every time my DH and I take the girls even. The last time I took a girlfriends' trip, she just sighed. So, I waited until just a few weeks before I was going and told her - I knew she'd be more upset to hear about it afterwards, anyway. Her reaction? More sighing and "when are you going to get over having to go there?" and the like.

But what really got me was when I returned... I called to let her know I was home safe, etc., and all she could say was, "When are you going to grow up? Why do you feel the need to play all the time? There are more educational and interesting places you could be going, and you're not doing yourself or your girls any favors by just visiting a place like Disney. I really hope one of these days you get over it and start acting like an adult when it comes to your vacations."

??? :shake: :bang:

For one, I am 43, and owe no one an explanation for why I (or family) go anywhere. I just do it for the courtesy of saying I won't be in town, and of course, they're going to want to know where we are. And we also DO take the girls other places... we've been going to Maine with them almost every summer for the past 12 years, and I've never gotten the "why do you keep going back" from her on that one! (but she also loves Maine, and has never been to Disney)

I didn't grow up in a Disney home (obviously...) but it was more than that... my mom seemed to actually have disdain for the Wide World of Disney shows and the Mickey Mouse club... and I learned quickly as I became a teen and then an adult that she doesn't enjoy anything "fantasy" -- she will tell you that right out.

I've even tried to get her to go -- but she is now 80, and although very healthy and vital, won't now fly or travel that far, and I can't say I blame her. She says that she can imagine herself enjoying Epcot, based on my description of it (she's into history and geography and things like that, most of our vacations outside of Maine consisted of historical sites, graveyards and educational places. Places that COULD be fun, if you know how to do them right... but in my mom's world, it was serious work to visit these places, and unfort., never much fun. :rolleyes:)

I won't ever stop telling her we're going -- she needs to know when we're out of town -- but I just don't know how to respond anymore. It's not like she's trying to be mean -- she just seriously doesn't get it, and finds it to be just child's play.

And what I want her to get is that it is SUPPOSED to be fun... child's play... family fun & hugs & laughter time... but I think I'm :beat:

Anyone else??

[Disney4us2]

My father is like that.... well sort of. He is always saying "your going to Disneyland again". I just tell him it is my happy place and don't give him grief when he goes to the poker clubs.... 2-3 time a week. I tell him his poker is his Disneyland or happy place.

I took him in October at the age of 90 and he had a great time. We are planning to take him again for birthday 91 in June.:party:

[Dragongirlx]

My Mum can be a bit like that - not about Disney but about other areas specifically when am I going to settle down and get married and have kids. To which the answer is of course NEVER
I find just to ignore her and change the subject is the best way to go and if she pushes it I tell her that I am a grown up and get to mke my own decisions now and they have nothing to do with her.
Don't let your mother's attitude get you down just ignore it and continue to live YOUR life in your own fun way.

[forever a child]

My parents (my father mostly) is like this. When we went for December we told them we were going to florida to go visit antique shops and drive around and maybe visit Disney a day or two. Which was a lie. I am 42 and I hate lying to my family but it was for the same reason as you describe (maybe worse since my father will yell at me). 1) I wanted them to know (out of courtesy) that we would be out of town. 2) I wanted to avoid what would be an argument.

I love to travel...when I went to Israel...I didn't tell my father until I was there and was calling to check in. He started yelling at me (again, was in my 30's). I had told my mother about a week before my trip. My daughter was safely with her father for 2 weeks while I was out of the country.

Mostly, my family does not agree with my spending. But they fail to realize that I don't agree with theirs either. My father smokes, they go out to eat weekly, they buy new clothes and antique/collectible toys. I don't. I don't do any of that so that DD and I can go to Disney. I pay for everything with cash, nothing gets placed on credit. So the bottom line is...i will inform them of my trips so that they don't worry but I may not be totally honest. I am not giving up what we love to do and that is that. If they don't like it...that is their problem. ;)

Next trip planned....Late Sept 2011. No, they don't have a clue. I'll tell them probably a day or two before we leave! :thumbsup:

[MississippiDisneyFreak]

I also have a family member who is like that but not just about Disney about everything in life (my Grandmother):...she thinks there is something wrong with having fun and seems to look for the negative in everything in life....just accept that you can't change them and live your life how you want:hug:

[cajunprincess]

My mom is the same way. When I tell her that I am going back to Disney the conversation goes something like:

"again!?! Why can't you so somewhere else like someplace you have never been. Why does it have to be Disney"

I, too, explain to her that when I am there, nothing else in the world seems to matter and I am truly taken to another "World" where I can let my imagination run wild, and enjoy my kids and their imaginations! She will never understand it either!

[DisneyorBust]

Used to have a minor issue with my Mother regarding trips to WDW. Nothing as overt but subtle comments had been made. The rest of the family brother, sister and their respective families had other ideas as to what constituted a 'vacation'.
My solution: I just didn't tell them! My DW and I would book our vacation, tell the kids, share the excitement and wait until we left for the 'World'. In the end, it was none of their business, we worked for it and we paid for it.
And we ENJOY it!
Ignore the negative and live your life!

[BellesRose]

Have you ever invited your mom to go with you? I would tell her that you and your family would LOVE for her to join you next time. Remind her about how much she would enjoy Epcot and other things that Disney has to offer. If she throws a fit, you can't say you never tried. Just write her off and next time you're on the phone and she starts in, pull the phone away from your ear until she's done :blush::secret:
But who knows, maybe she will make it there someday...

[luvdiznee]

Yep, same here. Mother, DD's father and friends; "you're going there again".

Of course mothers are the worst (at least mine is). :thedolls: But I will say that we have gone many other places and she even gripes about them, though not as much, so it may just be something totally different as far as my mother is concerned.

I would never invite her with me. She grew up in FL and had NEVER been to WDW. Had no desire to go then. Things haven't changed.

[I LoveJack]

You just have to remember that some people get it and others do not. Which is fine. it makes the parks less crowded. LOL I took my mom this past New Years and even though it was extremly crowded, my DD and I loved it. My mother won't go back at that time of year ever again she says. When I told her that choosing between work and home or going to WDW even with it packed, I'd pick Disney, she just thought that there was something wrong with me. But there is, and I know that there are a lot of people just like me out there, so it's all right. :thumbsup:

[LVT]

Tastes do vary widely. I get the same response from some co-workers. I also get that response from our trips out to national parks. Vacation is a hazardous topic at times. Of course I do not see why anyone would go to a casino, yech.

[ransam]

i get that sometimes...but not too much. my family loves disney, so they understand my passion. My co-workers all might tease me a bit, but they are really cool about and always ask me about it when i get home....