tyandskyesmom
06-08-2010, 12:22 PM
11 is apparently a difficult age for Tyler.
He has been in more trouble at school this year than all the rest put together.
At first it was being caught stealing out of a friend's desk in class.
Now we are having issues with writing on his desk (just a capital cursive G and an S) and leaving pencil shavings on the floor under his desk instead of cleaning it up, which caused pencil on the floor after his feet pushed it all around. On top of it all, is the lying that accompanies it all. He will lie to the teacher and the principal and then will lie to me (usually a different lie) until I ask the teacher or principal and get the truth. Now, as if there have not been enough problems with him and writing on things after five days of the latest issue, I get a call from the principal in regards to the note I sent letting her know that some of Tyler's books had a lot of writing in them and have for a while and he has told me it was there when he got it. So they checked his books and one of them is brand new this year...so they know it was him who did it...even though he has told me it isn't whenever I asked...and she said that he also wrote a sixth grader's name in the front of the book after his (so he is not even a smart liar) as if trying to blame him for the writing. But while I was talking to him yesterday abot lying and how it only gets you in more trouble, etc...and asked him if he had anything else to tell me or to have me sign or to show me and him saying "no" I get the call today from the principal. And the worst part is that she told him yesterday that she was going to call me today and let me know...so yesterday he had every opportunity to approach the subject and he chose not to...which to me, is essentially lying again!
I have no idea where this is coming from. He is super smart, almost moved up a grade in first grade, and active. He knows that is not acceptable...we do not allow writing or stickers or anything where it does not belong at home, we don't deface other people's property or public property. I don't know what I have done wrong...and I don't know how to stop it. At this point, he is already grounded (no video games, no TV, no outside, and sleeping in his own room)...
I am suspecting some kind of feeling like he is not recognized for what he does but I cannot seem to put that with what he is doing though. Let me explain. In school, they do not have an honor roll. They do not have any kind of honors classes. Essentially, it is like they don't want to point out the smart kids because it would make the other kids feel bad...yes, truely, that is how it is in our district...they pretty much have dumbed down the whole thing. They do have an Advanced Talent Resources class that they get pulled out for that is centered on individual working and organizations, critical thinking. But there is no recognition for that. They do a "Student of the Month" in each class...I think a boy and a girl...his sister came home as student of the month within the first six months of kindergarten but he has never been. And yet, some kids in his class have been it three times and the explanation is things like "She always hands her work in on time"...well Tyler hands it in on time and gets 100%...but gets no recognition. He is on a baseball team that is made up of 11 and 12 year olds and managed by the same man who is his football coach and also has three kids on the team...and Tyler has not been given a chance to play where he usually does, where he wants to, and mostly sits the bench...and in football (which just got over) he is the younger group that just moved up to thes level so he is basically a bench sitter (along with 25-30 other kids) and is not being given the chance to earn a position...So I think he is feeling really under-welmed and like he is not getting the recognition that others are getting who are doing less than he is...and in other places, he is not being given the chance to do what he can...but I cannot make the cause justify the effect here...other than that, I cannot think why a kid with as much as he has and with two parents and a sister and two grandparents very involved in his life and wanting him to be a hapy, healthy kid would be doing these completely unnecessary, bad things???
HELP?!?!?!?!
He has been in more trouble at school this year than all the rest put together.
At first it was being caught stealing out of a friend's desk in class.
Now we are having issues with writing on his desk (just a capital cursive G and an S) and leaving pencil shavings on the floor under his desk instead of cleaning it up, which caused pencil on the floor after his feet pushed it all around. On top of it all, is the lying that accompanies it all. He will lie to the teacher and the principal and then will lie to me (usually a different lie) until I ask the teacher or principal and get the truth. Now, as if there have not been enough problems with him and writing on things after five days of the latest issue, I get a call from the principal in regards to the note I sent letting her know that some of Tyler's books had a lot of writing in them and have for a while and he has told me it was there when he got it. So they checked his books and one of them is brand new this year...so they know it was him who did it...even though he has told me it isn't whenever I asked...and she said that he also wrote a sixth grader's name in the front of the book after his (so he is not even a smart liar) as if trying to blame him for the writing. But while I was talking to him yesterday abot lying and how it only gets you in more trouble, etc...and asked him if he had anything else to tell me or to have me sign or to show me and him saying "no" I get the call today from the principal. And the worst part is that she told him yesterday that she was going to call me today and let me know...so yesterday he had every opportunity to approach the subject and he chose not to...which to me, is essentially lying again!
I have no idea where this is coming from. He is super smart, almost moved up a grade in first grade, and active. He knows that is not acceptable...we do not allow writing or stickers or anything where it does not belong at home, we don't deface other people's property or public property. I don't know what I have done wrong...and I don't know how to stop it. At this point, he is already grounded (no video games, no TV, no outside, and sleeping in his own room)...
I am suspecting some kind of feeling like he is not recognized for what he does but I cannot seem to put that with what he is doing though. Let me explain. In school, they do not have an honor roll. They do not have any kind of honors classes. Essentially, it is like they don't want to point out the smart kids because it would make the other kids feel bad...yes, truely, that is how it is in our district...they pretty much have dumbed down the whole thing. They do have an Advanced Talent Resources class that they get pulled out for that is centered on individual working and organizations, critical thinking. But there is no recognition for that. They do a "Student of the Month" in each class...I think a boy and a girl...his sister came home as student of the month within the first six months of kindergarten but he has never been. And yet, some kids in his class have been it three times and the explanation is things like "She always hands her work in on time"...well Tyler hands it in on time and gets 100%...but gets no recognition. He is on a baseball team that is made up of 11 and 12 year olds and managed by the same man who is his football coach and also has three kids on the team...and Tyler has not been given a chance to play where he usually does, where he wants to, and mostly sits the bench...and in football (which just got over) he is the younger group that just moved up to thes level so he is basically a bench sitter (along with 25-30 other kids) and is not being given the chance to earn a position...So I think he is feeling really under-welmed and like he is not getting the recognition that others are getting who are doing less than he is...and in other places, he is not being given the chance to do what he can...but I cannot make the cause justify the effect here...other than that, I cannot think why a kid with as much as he has and with two parents and a sister and two grandparents very involved in his life and wanting him to be a hapy, healthy kid would be doing these completely unnecessary, bad things???
HELP?!?!?!?!