View Full Version : Having a hard night--had to cancel trip

11-24-2009, 09:48 PM
This is a really hard week for me. My long time boyfriend's mom has been really ill and in and out of the hospital often over the past two months, being on a ventilator for three weeks. She finally passed away (only 50 years old) on Sunday evening, which really is a blessing because she would have been ventilator dependent for the rest of her life. We are in the process of making all the arrangements and are having the services at the end of the week.

My parents and I had been planning a trip to WDW for the Christmas season and we were supposed to leave for a week long trip on Sunday. Obviously, I am unable to go even though my DBF keeps insisting I go. I would never leave him during this time. He is an only child and will have a hard enough time as it is.

I just made all the phone calls to cancel our trip and am so upset about it, along with everything else that is going on. It's not something that could be rescheduled, because we were lucky enough to get the military discount on the resort and tickets. We thought about making a shorter trip later in the month, but my dad can't go on a plane, and it doesn't make sense to spend two days driving there and two days back for three days there. I would do it, but my dad said no, we'd just go next year, maybe.

I don't know, I guess canceling a vacation is really trivial in the whole scheme of things, I'm just super bummed about it and have been sitting here crying to myself all night. I am really close to my parents and was really looking forward to being able to escape to Disney with them--especially because his mom's death really hits home and makes me think about my own parent's mortality. Just treasure every moment.

Thanks for listening--I just needed to get it off my chest.

11-24-2009, 09:57 PM
Sending a big :hug: your way. I can relate to you, because my DH's folks are not real well, and I've been trying not to get too excited since we could be in the same boat. Can't help it though, and it's understandable that you feel sad and disappointed. Look to the future time when I know you'll be able to go and be together with lots of smiles. Hang in there.

11-24-2009, 10:16 PM
You are feeling a ton of emotions right now, and it's not strange to be sad for a trip you were looking forward to, be canceled.

My deepest sympathy to you at this time. Disney will always be there, when you are in a better position to go.


11-24-2009, 10:56 PM
I am so sorry about your DBF's mother. She was so young. I think it's wonderful that you are staying with him, even though you had to make the difficult decision to cancel a much anticipated trip.

You are a truly caring girlfriend. I would have done exactly the same thing.

Take care, and I'm sure your boyfriend is very grateful to have you near when he needs you so.

Have a blessed holiday. Treasure the family you have, and be strong for your boyfriend.


11-24-2009, 11:29 PM
I'm sorry for your loss. You're doing the right thing. What a wonderful girlfriend! But I can imagine it's a hard time for you.

11-24-2009, 11:50 PM
I am very sorry for your boyfriends loss. Prayers and Pixie Dust for you guys.

11-25-2009, 05:09 AM
So sorry to hear of your loss.

11-25-2009, 05:15 AM
I'm so sorry about all that you are going through. I believe things happen for a reason. It may not be clear now, but hang in there.

11-25-2009, 02:14 PM
My heart goes out to you and your DBF at this heartbreaking time. I hope that, even though you and your parents are unable to take your Disney trip, you'll be able to spend much time with them soon.
Just treasure every moment the most important words we each need to remember . . .

11-25-2009, 02:38 PM
I'm so sorry. You certainly are having a difficult time right now. :hug::hug: Things will get better!