kcrc
08-12-2009, 10:55 AM
Hi all - Looking for some feedback on how to handle a situation...
I help coach my daughter's cheer team. There is a head coach and 4 assistants (I am one of the assistants - the most recent one added to the staff). There are also a few older girls that help out.
One of the assistant coaches is a young adult who does not have any children on the team, but does so because she loves to cheer. This assistant has been tasked with making up a number of the routines in the past, and she has done well.
Now, I loved to cheer as well, though many more years ago... So, being part of the coaching staff has been fun and a great way for me to participate in something that I loved. I enjoy trying to learn all that I can and watch videos, etc. to get as many ideas as possible. I constantly have routines, formations, etc. going through my head seeing what may be new and exciting.
Now for the problem... our young coach does not seem to like suggestions/feedback from anyone - especially me of course. And, she's very lax in getting things done. So, if our head coach gives a deadline of 2 weeks to have something done, our young coach will never seem to meet this deadline. I try to come up with some ideas so that we have something to work with as a starting point. Then of course, my ideas are deemed to be ridiculous, the young coach does everything BUT what I've suggested, and then proceeds to do it on her own timetable. Our head coach does nothing to stop this cycle. Usually once the final product is delivered, our head coach is so happy just to have ANYTHING that she doesn't question what's been delivered.
Obviously a whole power struggle thing going on here. Are all my ideas good? Absolutely not. But, I hope to put ideas out there to start dialogue among ALL of the coaches, and get input from everyone. But, 2 assistants never offer opinions, and the head coach never wants to offend anyone or step on toes, so usually doesn't make a decision. So that leaves me and the young coach. Again, I'd love to be able to sit around and brainstorm, and come up with awesome plans. But, that doesn't seem to happen. And of course, I start to wonder if my suggestions are really that bad, etc., but then I will talk to other coaches outside of our program, and they will echo my comments/suggestions, so then I think that at least some of my thinking is on target. I never try to be mean or disrespectful, although I'm sure it's interpreted that way.
Now, the real issue is - do I just step aside and offer no input and let this young coach have her way? Do I hold my ground and continue to try to offer ideas even though they seem to get shot down time after time? My biggest fear is that this young coach will end up taking something out on my daughter - and since the kids are the ultimate reason why we're there, I would NEVER do anything to impact all the hard work my daughter does.
What would you do???
I help coach my daughter's cheer team. There is a head coach and 4 assistants (I am one of the assistants - the most recent one added to the staff). There are also a few older girls that help out.
One of the assistant coaches is a young adult who does not have any children on the team, but does so because she loves to cheer. This assistant has been tasked with making up a number of the routines in the past, and she has done well.
Now, I loved to cheer as well, though many more years ago... So, being part of the coaching staff has been fun and a great way for me to participate in something that I loved. I enjoy trying to learn all that I can and watch videos, etc. to get as many ideas as possible. I constantly have routines, formations, etc. going through my head seeing what may be new and exciting.
Now for the problem... our young coach does not seem to like suggestions/feedback from anyone - especially me of course. And, she's very lax in getting things done. So, if our head coach gives a deadline of 2 weeks to have something done, our young coach will never seem to meet this deadline. I try to come up with some ideas so that we have something to work with as a starting point. Then of course, my ideas are deemed to be ridiculous, the young coach does everything BUT what I've suggested, and then proceeds to do it on her own timetable. Our head coach does nothing to stop this cycle. Usually once the final product is delivered, our head coach is so happy just to have ANYTHING that she doesn't question what's been delivered.
Obviously a whole power struggle thing going on here. Are all my ideas good? Absolutely not. But, I hope to put ideas out there to start dialogue among ALL of the coaches, and get input from everyone. But, 2 assistants never offer opinions, and the head coach never wants to offend anyone or step on toes, so usually doesn't make a decision. So that leaves me and the young coach. Again, I'd love to be able to sit around and brainstorm, and come up with awesome plans. But, that doesn't seem to happen. And of course, I start to wonder if my suggestions are really that bad, etc., but then I will talk to other coaches outside of our program, and they will echo my comments/suggestions, so then I think that at least some of my thinking is on target. I never try to be mean or disrespectful, although I'm sure it's interpreted that way.
Now, the real issue is - do I just step aside and offer no input and let this young coach have her way? Do I hold my ground and continue to try to offer ideas even though they seem to get shot down time after time? My biggest fear is that this young coach will end up taking something out on my daughter - and since the kids are the ultimate reason why we're there, I would NEVER do anything to impact all the hard work my daughter does.
What would you do???