I debated doing this.

[varcity]

I'm one who hates giving out a cry for personal help and comments, etc. I just don't like drawing attention to myself unless singing in VMK where my voice is beautiful. That and I prefer to help everyone else before they help me anyways. So I wasn't going to post this, but it's a little different and a little more difficult this time around.

My Aunt, or my Nanny as all the kids my age and younger title her, was diagnosed with cancer last year sometime. She fought and we were told she won. So when I got back from Mexico we found out that it's back. No one is telling the kids much about it partly because they don't want to scare us and mostly because she pretty much dissociated herself from the family about 10-12 years ago. That makes it the hardest because she only talks to her husband and daughter. She ignores her brother (my dad), her sister, one of her daughters, and even her mom (her dad passed from cancer in 1998 while my family was in WDW, double the depression on that one.)

Anyways, I think I would be fine if I hadn't over heard somethings being mentioned. My dad is talking about flying out there despite all the bad blood that goes on between them. So my mom made metion to someone on the phone that she wants my dad to go out there just to say goodbye. That's the worst part.

So, prayers, thoughts, pixie dust. Thanks guys

[terri.m]

:pixie::pixie::pixie: for you all. So sorry your family is going thru this.

[Mr. Tom Morrow]

Sorry to hear your going through a hard time right now. I do think it's a good thing that your dad goes out there right now, because bad blood or not family is family and it's good to say goodbye.
Hope your doing ok and all the best:thumbsup:

[chrisb26]

Aww so sorry this is going on Varcity it must be difficult for nobody to tell you anything especially since you over heard that one part of the conversation. Here is some prayers and :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: that it will get better.

[Jeremy]

Sorry to hear about this.
Here is some prayers and pixie dust for you and your family my friend.
:pixie::pixie::pixie:

[WDWfanatic742]

Sorry to hear that varcity. Hopefully thing's become better soon :pixie::pixie::pixie::pixie:

[mrsgaribaldi]

Prayers and :pixie::pixie::pixie::pixie:on the way.

[Chescat]

I'm so sorry Varcity. I know you were so excited after getting back from your trip. Its is good your dad is going. He needs things settled in for him. Big hugs and pixie dust for you and your family. :pixie::pixie::pixie:

You know your mummy cat is here when you need me. I seem to be an expert in these matters over the last 6 months. :geek: :call::hug:

[Dizneyfan]

So sorry to hear about your aunt. I'll keep your family in my prayers.:sad:

[cheshirecollector]

:pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie:

[wizardmickey]

Major prayers and pixie dust dude. I understand the "bad blood" feeling all too well; my brother's and I fueded like crazy off and on most of our adult lives (and one brother just stopped even contacting us) until my Mom's cancer had come back a couple of years ago. After her passing, all of our family from here to out were you are & up to our nation's capital keep very close contact with each other now. It's a shame that it takes tragedy to bring families back together. Good luck to you & yours!:thumbsup:

[janmathatter]

Varcity, please give my thoughts and prayers to your family. Your dad is doing the right thing. Your bay be hopes that you will know that I'm here if you ever need to talk.

:pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie:

[varcity]

Thanks for the comments. When the time comes I'll let my dad know my thought as well as Tom's thought (since they are pretty much the same) on him going. But as I type this and he reads paper work next to me, he seems unconcerned so maybe it is I who is over reacting? Oh well.

Cat, you really are the expert, should have been a doctor :mickey:

Thanks everyone!!

[RenDuran]

Varcity, I feel for you and your family right now. I'm glad that your dad is going to see his sister. I wish they were getting to see each other on good terms and not because of your aunt's illness, but I'm glad your dad is putting all that bad history aside and going to see her. When she is gone he'll be glad that he did. You and your entire family are in my thoughts.

[mickeynuts]

I'm here for you Varcity, lots of prayers going up for you and your family.
Laura

[Blue Genie]

I'm not good in words for stuff like this but here :pixie::pixie: for your family.

[Thumper03]

Been there and had to do that. Hope all goes well. It will give your dad some needed peace and hopefully your aunt as well. Often, in these cases, it is pride that keeps people apart. Hope compassion and forgiveness for the past are taken in the spirit they are intended.
Good luck.:tink:

BrerFan

[Ayndi]

Varcity,

I hope that all is well, and I know all too well that family issue.

My thoughts are with you and her. :(

[Patricia]

I'm glad your Dad is going. It's important for them both to have that closure.

My thoughts are with you and your family.


:tink:

[bigpapiortiz34]

I am very sorry to hear of this Varcity. My thoughts are with your family and your family at this time.

Sending loads of pixie dust and prayers to help!

:pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie:

[varcity]

I love eve's droping:

Over heard my mom on the phone. Found out my Nanny called her mom and said it was not curable, but it is treatable. But she didn't give a timeline, so not sure if she has one or not. More info when I over hear more

[Chescat]

With it being treatable, that's actually good news. Sometimes you have to live with it being not curable. My cousin lived with hodgkins for over 25 years. And that goes for other friends and family members I have with "treatable cancer" now.

Its also good she's now trying to finally reach out to the family. As we talked about the other night, until she made that first step and reached out to her family, it was going to be hard for her mom, your dad & sister to do anything, which was a no win situation for all. I'm glad she realized she needs family in a time like this.

[varcity]

Well, Mom came up to me and talked to me as I played guitar hero because I was bored. TIme left: 5 months at most. Picked my head up, fought back emotions, beat a KISS song which really took my mind off what I was told.

So I told her I want to go even if my dad doesn't. She said she doesn't want to see anyone because then she has to face up to how she treated everyone the past 10 years. So, My mom will talk to my dad, I'm sure he will go. But if not I'll ask if I can go alone or what not.

[Chescat]

I'm really sorry Varcity. It is good that you had the talk with your mom. That's what you and her probably both needed.

Follow your heart and do what you need to do. Your aunt may want to go see her also. That's a possibility you can go with her if your dad doesn't want to go. I think your dad just needs to let it sink in a little and rest from all that work last week.

I'm make sure varcity is taken care of in VMK for a while. ;)

[WED1901]

Hang in there Dude! Wishing you guys brighter days ahead!!:pixie::pixie::pixie:

[mickeytinkerbellprincess]

My whole mom's side is cut off from us. It was pretty hard when we went to my grandma's funeral a while back and they didn't even look at us.

:pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: :pixie: All the pixie in the world for you Varcity! I hope things get better. And you don't ever have to debate when you ask for pixie; we'll always give some no matter what!

[jjramsey]

I am so sorry :crying:

[Tink's Mom]

Wishes for your family, Varcity. :pixie: :pixie:

[varcity]

Ok, latest word is in.

My aunt has developed cists on her arms I believe, that are tumors. She is sleeping 18 hours a day and supposidly in a lot of pain as well. She has dropped from about 140 pounds to 100 pounds now and her medicine isn't alleviating any of the pain.

So, with the pain in being unbearable for her, they have found an oxygen specialist dude that is supposed to help get rid of the pain. So my decision has been forced upon me. Im not going to Georgia. She is coming out here for a three week stay to visit this doctor and see if he can help subside the pain.

Anyways, I'm holding me head up high and fighting through it. Stick around my friends so I don't remember it. Then there is the moments where I'll listen to the radio and here a song containing the word death and I'll remember. But, lots of stuff coming up to get ready for, so I am ok for right now :mickey:

[Chescat]

You will go through many phases with this. When you see her at first it will hit you pretty hard, but then when you see her a lot, you then go to another mode of visiting and talking and helping. You will catch up on a lot of lost time and fences will be mended.Your mind shuts off the bad stuff and focuses on the moment which is instincts of loving and caring.

You might not think you are up to this, but varcity I know you are. You are that type of person. You know we are all here for you, for that reassurance that you can do it. Take care my friend. :hug:

[mickeytinkerbellprincess]

I'm sorry that your aunt is in pain, but I hope the oxygen guy will help her out :mickey: Hang in there Varcity! We're here if you need us :pixie:

[varcity]

Well, following this weeks theme, my aunt has just passed as well.

If you read the first post, the family had had problems with her to where we haven't even talked to her for 10 years.

the first week of August she came to Santa Barbara for an Oxygen treatment and toxin cleansing. Just to try anything they could to ease the pain and help her fight with only a 5 month lifespan left. So her mom, sister, and my dad all went down there to be with her and her husband and seemed to make ammends pretty well. Walks on the beach, etc.

The mind works in a mysterious way. Today is her and her husbands 38th anniversary. She fought all the way to that date and passed away around midnight peacefully.

There no longer is the pain she felt, the rough times she lived, nor the descension between the family. The is at rest, visiting her father and her brother in law in heaven. R.I.P. Nanny

[Chescat]

So sorry Varcity. Its a blessing the family was able to reunite and put aside all those differences and come together at the end. Its better for your dad and the other aunt.

You know as always I'm here if you need me. :hug: :call:

[chrisb26]

Aww sorry to hear that Varcity :( I'm sure its difficult. Unfotunantly it took what it did for your family to make amends however I'm glad that they where able to. It's also good like you said that she will no longer be suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.

[terri.m]

:( I'm so sorry Varcity. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I'm happy to hear that your dad and her made amends. I'm also amazed at the body and mind's will to hold out for something so special. A few years ago my MIL's twin sister was dying of cancer. We went to visit and said our goodbyes. When we arrived back home (she was about 5 hrs away) we heard she was more alert and asking for her twin. We decided to make a quick trip back and see her one more time when she could know we were there. When we got back home the last time, we got the call she passed. She was just wanting to say goodbye.

But back to you, many hugs for you and your family.

[mickeytinkerbellprincess]

I'm so sorry about this, Varcity. In a sense it was good for her because she is no longer suffering and that she passed away peacefully. I'm glad that your family is together now. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts :pixie: :hug:

[mickeynuts]

I'm so sorry Varcity, so difficult to lose a loved one. You and your family are in my prayers.

[SparkleMeTink]

So sorry to hear that Varcity. Our prayers are with you and your family.

[wizardmickey]

Hang in there Wing Dude. Take as much time to grieve as you need & let yourself heal. We Luv ya & miss ya Man! And you know if you need an ear to bend how to reach me as well!

[Patricia]

Sorry to hear of your loss..:(

[varcity]

Well this is closing for this thread!

The tears have been shed, the words have been said, and the family is once again mended. :mickey: After 4 days in Santa Barbara (and no sleep the day I left) I have re-met my uncle David and my cousin Laura, the family seems to have been closer and more sorry for words exchanged in the past, and most grateful for what we have now.

We always knew it was going to take something bad to make something good. I firmly believe God has a reason for everything that happens, and this was the purpose.

Thanks to everyone for your kind words over the past month or two. It has helped in keeping my feelings and emotions in check as well as made me realize what I should and should not do. I am extremely grateful for my Intercot family.

To those I email with, shoot me over an email and I can send pictures of me and the family once they are transferred to the computer.

Rip, Nanny, you are forever in my heart.

[mickeytinkerbellprincess]

I'm glad your family are back and are feeling better now. :pixie: and :hug:

[terri.m]

:hug: Varcity. I'm glad your family became closer thru all the sadness.

[OhGee]

Varcity, my belated condolences. My prayers are with you and your family.