angedeaile
05-17-2007, 01:36 PM
This is a long one. Sorry.
Last year, my little brother (9yrs), my DBF and myself went on a trip to DW! Our first trip infact and boy did we have fun! Once the trip was over, my little brother kept asking when we could go next.
I was planning on moving earlier this year (job transfer) and knew money would be tight, so I told him 2008. Well, I found out that plans to move to a new city fell through in January. So, I put down a deposit and started planning back in February! The thought of going again really helped with the disappointment of not moving.
Anywho, I spoke to my mom about the idea from day one; we talk on the phone almost every day. She seemed fine with the idea. It wasn’t until April when she informed me that she never told my dad of the idea.
When she finally did talk to him about it, his reply was, “She should save her money. They have already gone once! Disney is such a waste of money! Not only that, but he doesn’t deserve to go.”
My brother has been a bit mouthy lately. My parents moved to a new city last summer and my brother has been trying his best to adjust. He still has no friends and is picked on and called names on a regular basis. Because of his difficulty at school, he has been acting out at home. He wasn’t like this until they moved. This is why I am not so sure that a trip to DW would make his behavior worse.
Infact, I thought it might help. I don't spend much time with him, since I don't live near by. When I am home, he is so well behaved. I am wondering if he holds resentment towards my parents for the move...
Anywho, I thought it would be a great opportunity to get to the root of the problem by removing him from the environment for a vacation..alittle stress relief. Maybe I am wrong? Maybe it has nothing to do with the move. I don't know.
Regardless, I am going on the trip. I put a deposit down and have to use up two weeks vacation time by next year.
So here is my dilemma. I am going home for his 10th birthday next weekend. I am wondering if I should bother speaking to my dad about the trip or just take it as his final word?
So folks- you tell me. Should I try to convince him? Do you think the trip will worsen my brother’s behavior?
Last year, my little brother (9yrs), my DBF and myself went on a trip to DW! Our first trip infact and boy did we have fun! Once the trip was over, my little brother kept asking when we could go next.
I was planning on moving earlier this year (job transfer) and knew money would be tight, so I told him 2008. Well, I found out that plans to move to a new city fell through in January. So, I put down a deposit and started planning back in February! The thought of going again really helped with the disappointment of not moving.
Anywho, I spoke to my mom about the idea from day one; we talk on the phone almost every day. She seemed fine with the idea. It wasn’t until April when she informed me that she never told my dad of the idea.
When she finally did talk to him about it, his reply was, “She should save her money. They have already gone once! Disney is such a waste of money! Not only that, but he doesn’t deserve to go.”
My brother has been a bit mouthy lately. My parents moved to a new city last summer and my brother has been trying his best to adjust. He still has no friends and is picked on and called names on a regular basis. Because of his difficulty at school, he has been acting out at home. He wasn’t like this until they moved. This is why I am not so sure that a trip to DW would make his behavior worse.
Infact, I thought it might help. I don't spend much time with him, since I don't live near by. When I am home, he is so well behaved. I am wondering if he holds resentment towards my parents for the move...
Anywho, I thought it would be a great opportunity to get to the root of the problem by removing him from the environment for a vacation..alittle stress relief. Maybe I am wrong? Maybe it has nothing to do with the move. I don't know.
Regardless, I am going on the trip. I put a deposit down and have to use up two weeks vacation time by next year.
So here is my dilemma. I am going home for his 10th birthday next weekend. I am wondering if I should bother speaking to my dad about the trip or just take it as his final word?
So folks- you tell me. Should I try to convince him? Do you think the trip will worsen my brother’s behavior?